Values play in people's life a huge role. They have a huge impact on the formation of personality, govern our thoughts and actions affect the nature of the action. Value is always subjective: what one would call important another considers minor, and the third and did not pay attention to it. According to many scientists, the identity of the people differ in what values.
a person with values and adherence to them ensures the harmony of the inner world, makes life worthwhile. When there is a collapse of fundamental values, experienced a severe crisis. It was only when his system approved by the new values. It seems that everything is clear, logical and systematic way. But this is only at first glance. If you dig deeper, the picture changes dramatically.
Value of the subconscious
in addition to intuitive and familiar values that we can easily voice, in the mind of each person hiding is absolutely unconscious of the conditional values. They are fully functioning at the level of the unconscious mind and affect the behavior of people a tremendous impact. These structures are closely connected with the emotional sphere, emotively and energetically charged, which is the basis of their power and compelling impact on the psyche.
the conditional values are Formed in the Oedipal period, depending, in the age of 3-6 years by one of two mechanisms:
1. The child refuses to their spontaneous needs and impulses in order to please significant adults. For example, kid wants to run and scream, and mom demands that he sat quietly. For the sake of the mother he calms down, to get love and approval. If this is repeated often, he understands that to be loved, need to be quiet and unobtrusive. This statement finds a strong influence, because for the observance of this condition the child you love. It's his logic.
Over time, this statement is superseded from consciousness, develops into a conditional value. In the end, a person does not remember the mechanism of formation, but in adult life he prefers to sit quietly and not Express themselves. To explain this position he could get. On a conscious level a person may aspire to career growth, but it needs to prove itself. But the unconscious conditional value to sit quietly and “not stick out” does not do it. The result is conflict between the conscious value to achieve in your career, and value of the unconscious to Express themselves, not to attract attention. Unconscious value is not recognized, but she always wins, because has a more powerful emotional charge.
2. The second mechanism of formation of the conditional values – introject from parents. To be like mom or dad, the child perceives the most salient feature of their personality, as the highest value, for example, strength, and eventually includes it in his own mind. If on a subconscious level, the person declares the value of the force, she can't show weakness in any sphere of life. Often it interferes with a happy relationship.
a Vivid example of the negative impact of the conditional installation to be strong – she wants to build a relationship with a caring male leader, but subconsciously she is committed to the force, provoking conflicts in the relationship, wants to be weak, but always dominates. Until she realizes the imperative influence of unconscious installation, to build a happy relationship will be very difficult.
From the above examples it is clear how our lives affect the conditional values. It is also clear that it is important to realize and accept. Help identify their analysis of drawings and other art products, as well as behavioral reactions and expectations from others. To make it not so easy, because the unconscious installation under the guise of protective mechanisms. And in working with the psychologist, their definition will be more effective and efficient.
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