Silence
One of the mistakes is the concealment of their feelings and emotions in front of a partner. The best way to solve conflicts constructively, to speak about their experiences. Format conversion it is desirable to make so that partner did not feel the prosecution.
Guilty
the relationship, the person says about their feelings using these words: "because Of you" "You said(a)", "At your request", etc. in Almost every phrase sounds the treatment "you". This pronunciation of the senses will lead to another conflict, since the partner, feeling guilty, begins to actively defend. Typically used to reverse the charge or withdrawal from communication.
Value
In relationships it is important to appreciate the strengths of your partner. In social environment one is exposed to constant assessment of themselves. Partner in a relationship wants to feel the value of their thoughts, feelings, performed cases. Phrase devalues partner, usually sound like this: "it's not so bad", "You're kidding", "It's not important", "You thought", "what are you tired?", "Everyone can, and you can" etc.
"Manipulation"
a Relationship built on manipulation of each other over time, destroyed. The manipulation deprives a partner of autonomy, uniqueness, trust and self-esteem. The rejection manipulation in the relationship creates a warm and trusting atmosphere that gives partner to develop in the best way.
Pressure
Sometimes relationships on a psychological level, perceived as a struggle for power. Partner is beginning to have social, domestic or psychological pressure. Depressed partner is not able to exercise his individuality, and does not feel overwhelming pleasure from weak partner. In relationships it is important to find interchangeability, support and respect. If the partners refuse the format of the struggle and accept the strengths and weaknesses of each other, the relationship would be mutual.
"I'm not listening"
Another mistake in the relationship, not the ability to hear partner. The reasons may be different: quick insights during the conversation, the significance of their thoughts in front of others, unwillingness to hear, the habit of this style of communication. When the partner does not finish that often there is misunderstanding, resentment, anger.
Lack of sex
If partnered, no sex (only if it has serious reason or common agreement), it leads to the accumulation of irritability, anger, mistrust and resentment. Sexual life is important, this closeness creates not only physical comfort but also emotional cohesion. Abstaining from sex is the equivalent of self-doubt or a partner.
Cheating
Standard error in the relationship, can be called treason partner, both physical and emotional in the form of love to another. That would not prevent infidelity, it is necessary to discuss how this discomfort prevents partners in sex or relationships in General. Open discussion will allow the pair to develop a new plan of action against sexual experimentation to positive emotional effects.
"I don't trust"
Lack of trust in the relationship, one of difficult to understand errors. It is difficult to assess the degree of trust in the partner. You can always pay attention to how partners can open up to each other. Trust is a basic quality in relations.
Criticism
Critical attitude towards the partner leads to negative consequences. Partner can not always live under appraising and critical eye. Ability to make partner with his personality will improve relations. It is important to verbalize your feelings and the qualities of the partner, but in a safe form. Can change both partners. The desire to change habits needs to reach the consciousness of the partner. Criticism only deepens the differences and lack of understanding.
"I don't care"
the attitude of indifference to the world and values the other partner deeply hurt him. Need to find common interests to create personal traditions. Any of the partners wants to feel in a relationship.
"Your responsibility"
worst mistake in relationships is the inability to allocate responsibility between the partners. Everyone has their own goals, objectives and plans. You need to discuss your desires. If the amount of the liability in the relationship 100%, then each will be 50%. If you do more than 50% think, why do you how much liability. Relationships in our time have a contemporary character. Any family responsibilities are interchangeable. Each partner can pick up the other. It is important to understand how much you are responsible for these relationships.
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