I Think that our songs - precise cut situation of codependency and passion for the suffering in Russia.
"now I Have your name, you got my soul" (married, giving soul?), "I'll be so strong, that you loved me" (love over power?), "My fate is ... one love and my pain" (well, as without pain?), "Only once was I happy the day I met you" (for 50 years life only one time you were happy?), "The cranes are flying to China, only you do not fly, no winter and no summer don't leave me on this planet" (this I actually came cognitive dissonance) - decode of the message: "I'll do anything/(and suffer too), just be with me."
Comrades, it's about emotional dependence (there's a song with the same name!). To suffer in co-dependent relationships it is easier because partner Shay is very convenient to plug wounds, caused by different reasons - from a lack of parental emotional warmth to deprivation, hospitalism and other traumatic events. Where repertoriee will withstand them open, itchy, screaming and oozing holes, but still alone. And few risks to pull out of these holes the infection and pus, process and allow to appear the scar that is to cure. Because for such people there is only one friend, and because for them the safe model is to suffer and endure; perhaps people are not even aware of the existence of others. In this place I remember an example about the daughter of an alcoholic who just wants a "normal" husband, but once married a person with an addiction or often absent, because it is laid in childhood model has only information about such relationships, as were mom and dad. Therefore, when a person is in therapy, he not only heals their injuries, but also aware of the manner in which he/she lives, and at this point there is a choice to change them. And if we actively change, there is an opportunity to build a more healthy relationship..
one More thing. When we listen to songs, even in background, I think this information is still deposited in our unconscious minds. Offer to filter and not to miss in your ears destructive information.
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