the Larisa Ulanova
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John gray in the book "Women are from Venus, men from Mars"refers to the principle of "90 to 10".What does it mean? For example, if we realize that occasionally appear past unresolved feelings, it will be easier to understand why we sometimes become vulnerable. When we're upset, 90% of this is associated with the past, not because we believe the cause of our discontent. Usually only 10% stimulation correlated with this experience. Refer to the example. If the partner is, in our opinion, there is critical to us, this somewhat hurts our feelings. But as we adults, we are able to understand that he had a bad day, make a discount.But the other day these criticisms we take very painful. Why? The fact that this day felt our past, unresolved feelings. As a result, we become more vulnerable to criticism. Statements of a close person hurt us, because in childhood we are often sharply criticized. And current comments affect us so much as reopen old wounds.
How can we provide each other support. When past feelings are awakened in man, he usually goes to his cave. In such moments it is painfully sensitive and is especially in need of understanding, forgiveness.
When the past begins to manifest in the woman, it destroyed the system of self-assessment, suffers self-esteem. It tightens the pool of past experiences, and it is very important tenderness, attention and care.
to preserve the magical power of love, we must be able to show flexibility and not to forget that love is similar to the seasons: it has its spring, summer, autumn and winter, a change which , as in nature, is a natural and ongoing process.
If the patient relationship with significant others is seriously disturbed and are one of the factors that contribute to depression in this case can be assigned to one or the other form of marital or family therapy.
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