How often do you tell yourself "I'm such a failure/loser" and the other is not much encouraging phrase?
All people make mistakes, are confronted with different kinds of failures and fail. It's a natural part of life, familiar to each of us.
However, we differ from one another, how we relate to such events and what we learn from them.
Lose - let's call them that any development of events, when something went wrong, and we are not quite happy - of course, there can be unpleasant by itself. However, much more pain, typically causes exactly what we think about it: "I'm not able"/ "it's always, it's hopeless"/ "Not worth it anymore to try," and other variations on the theme of self-abasement, frustration, and hopelessness.
There is another way of looking at things. The defeat in the first place carry useful information about how to do. If you treat them this way then if they won't cause you joy and a burst of enthusiasm, that in any case and will not lead to deep despair. You can always make the defeat a constructive conclusion and learn a lesson. Constructive is the conclusion, which contains potentially useful information about how to do in such a situation next time, how can I change it or fix it.
What also helps not to give up in case of defeat?
it is Important to clearly separate two things. If you can't achieve your goal, this should not devalue your identity. That is, a failure does not make you the embodiment of that failure, you don't get bad or anything not capable. You had a plan or strategy that failed, or simply failed; perhaps they really are not viable and require revision, but you as a person is still valuable.
Remember, you always have a choice: you can analyze the situation and learn from defeat or despair, to leave slabiciune and to stop trying to do anything in the direction of their goals. If you knew all this stuff already, but I can't stop treating every defeat as a tragedy, you can contact us for psychological help. And write in the comments what helps you to cope with losses and move on.
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