it Happens that to me for advice come single women that articulate their "pain" so. And around this plot has already generated queries: how to meet how to start a family, how to be ready for motherhood.
Such categorical desires I am always wary. They are not so many similar desires as to svergnutomu ideas around which he builds his whole (whether it is at this point his/her own?) life.
the First issue that I draw to the customer is: "What you really want , when you want a baby?". Usually behind this desire to "close" your hole, to solve this kind of problem. And grow as a result, children function, living for something, not for themselves.
it seems to Me much more honest adult to find a more direct way of solving their personal problems than to give birth to this world for another unfortunate person.
there are several popular reasons to have a baby.
Write something. Here we see the theme of fear of death and search for immortality. Ready universal recipes for this reason, of course not. But whether children involved in their own relationship with death?! Our job as adults to accept their mortality on their own. To accept and live with it.
there will be a child – the meaning of life. is Still one of my favorite existential themes. The pointlessness of life. We, of course, the order clogged the head with these endless stereotypes about "motherhood is the meaning of life". But first, we must understand that it's not forever. Mother baby child meaning, Yes. And when it ends? 30? 40? 50? Second, children who are trying to make sense of life, life is very difficult.
to Give him the happy childhood, which was not the parent. a good Idea, but especially when under it give birth to a child... As if it will change something in your childhood? Your wounded inner child will be happier? Alas, no. Having children doesn't help them, it helps psychotherapy.
This is just a few bright ideas that I wanted to illustrate my idea. Of course, there are many more.
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