One of the most important tasks of the psychologist — to be able to quickly and point to "numb". Often therapy is difficult enough for a man, he can say is "no skin" begins to feel. The psychologist in this moment can give love, warm. When I have a client in crisis, I know how to follow his feelings, to live them with him, deprivati what was hidden in the depths of the heart. This is a very important and necessary process of any therapy. br>
Today I want to tell you about another method of psychological counseling. It is less soft, but incredibly effective. I call it "magic pendel". In psychology he called confrontation. Many people avoid the discussion of important topics like protected from themselves, live in contradictory feelings, answer all questions, "Yes, but." Then the therapist must help the client to see the situation for what it really is and not hide from it. br>
I will Not be shy, I'm very cool to know how to confront. I hand filled, counseling addicts. There's a game of hide and seek from ourselves is well underway. The essence of this method is to push the man with an honest attitude towards themselves, their possibilities, to the situation. Confrontation is completely different, the confrontation of the weakness, strength, facts. br>
I will Give you a textbook case of psychological practice. br>
I have a client who lost his family life. Has a wife, has a mistress, there is a flailing and suffering husband. I ask:
- Well, you told your wife that you're not being honest with her and do you have a mistress?
- No. I can't say.
- Why not?
- it will be bad.
There answers are many, but they are all in one spirit: she dumps me, it will hysteria, it will tell the child that his injures, etc. I say:
"Wait," and here begins my confrontation with facts - In fact, you can't. You can't not breathe, eat, drink. You can't fly. You can't fly?
- Yes, - answers my client. br>
I am bringing it to the fact that he doesn't Want to talk to his wife. "I can't" is the story of the independent, there are many circumstances that supposedly solve everything. And "I don't want" - that's my responsibility. Why not? Because they are afraid. And this is a true, honest request. br>
So I call the confrontation "magic pendel", it gives an outlet for honesty. Of course, to come up to her to gently, showing respect to the feelings of the person. But sometimes people are "stuck" in their experience so much that they just need to push for a clearer view of things. br>
Another example of the practice. A woman wants to leave the unloved work, where everything is bad. Therapy goes on and on. Like she's already gone, but still remained at half time. That is old behavior and the old fears of her suck. And here she is again uncomfortable, the staff at her bump, she with all ugodnijim. Years to deal with these feelings and with each colleague separately. But I believe that the effectiveness of the client's cheer up at some point, to put it to the real motives of such behavior. And "hop", a man fell out of a crisis. br>
I really love this method. You could even say that this is my "thing". When it all started, I can point and quickly draw the person's gaze on the source of the problem, motivate it to real change. br>
According to interviews with a psychologist Aleksandr Malinin
Talked Vladislava stanišić
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