Inner child
Soon the New year. Legal opportunity to ply their children with gifts.
Today, we watched in a group of viber how parents choose gifts to children in kindergarten. To 3 kilograms of chocolates you want to give a 4 year old child who a flashlight and a whistle, to whom the bag seems empty, and someone too much. Swear and argue, to defend their right to choose a child gift).
our children Have the opportunity to obtain almost any star in the sky. At that time they were born, that is the market today. All of them, loved ones. The generation of the 90s and older never seen before. Remember the phrase "I used in my childhood for this car, gave life!"-delighted dad says 3-year-old son. Or: "For the dolls there are so many dresses, and I paper cut..."- sighs with envy mother of a 2-year-old girls. Oh! The time has gone...it's sad, and jealous later. Envy their own children. Sounds? However - it is.
each of us has an inner child. And if he responds to gifts very different plan, I mean baby stuff, it's the echo from the inner wounded child. Insufficient or "wrong" loved and caressed, little noticed, or not noticed at all. In other cases, were beaten, shouted. Sometimes (and often) children were starving. What kind of candy... Sad.
adult with that inner child doing? Buying candy, toys, clothing, in enormous quantities, their real child. Wins back his childhood now, having become for adults. It's not bad. It's also not good. Sometimes, carried away so that the child and there is no longer. I do not notice. The case of life. Friend went to the toy store with my daughter five years. Was so fascinated by the selection of dolls that I bought three pieces and left the store. After a minute he realized he forgot the main thing - the daughter. She left the baby in the store. So who she bought dolls?
But, basically, it's not so tragic. Or tragic, times a hundred. Depends on how you look. Forget or do not consider it necessary to kiss and caress, tell her that you love what you hear, what's next. Forget that children need first of all mom and dad, and then toys and sweets. Like, I bought you a typewriter for $ 250, what else do they need? Or, coming home instead of a kiss - a handful of chocolates on the bed.
What to do?
- you Can start with an easy one.
Buy items with YOUR INNER child. It is possible to have an internal dialogue: Viktor Petrovich asks 4-year-old Vitya, what he wants now. Then goes and buys. - Meditate. During meditation, follow the breath. Imagine the inner kid. How old as it looks. Take the thoughts on hands download, kiss. Whatever you need, most importantly, without violence.
- Talk to the inner child as you would like. A lot of talk.
- mention it. Praise, encourage, defend: "I adult, and I'm with you. Don't be afraid."
- If you want to buy something to your child and understand that this is unnecessary, but the heart and the hands against, you ask the inner child. Maybe he's having a 70s slides? If Yes - take it. But this will be the floaters, your inner child, the son/daughter not give. Get periodically, touch the fabric, stitch and enjoy.
- And last. Complex. Go to a psychologist. If your inner child is hurt - you and he are shown by the assistant.
That gives us to work with the inner child?
- the Opportunity to observe their children. To love and care for without much. Without gifts and money. Simple: To Love. To see. To hear. Notice.
- If the needs of the inner child satisfied employees can satisfy THEIR desires, to the adult position.
- Man who knows how to negotiate with your inner child, confident in his actions and desires.
Love and see your inner child.
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