the Impact of hidden forms of violence on the formation of the emotional sphere of the child
we All know that such violence, on clear and characteristic signs of violence and consequences of violence and its impact on the destiny of man. When we talk about violence, we mean explicit, visible form, i.e. physical violence, psychological violence, sexual, neglect the needs of the child or person. This is what is seen nevrogenny eye. I, in turn, having studied children's literature learning in various courses, and practice in working with children came to the conclusion that in addition to these explicit forms of violence, there are hidden forms of violence that we adults people who do not believe, is not perceived as a form of violence. Subsequently, these hidden forms of violence have a significant influence on the formation not only of the emotional sphere of the child, but on the personality as a whole.
Under hidden forms of violence, I will assume and describe in this article is not only intentional, but mostly unintentional exposure, which adversely affects the person.
one of the hidden forms of violence can be attributed to injury development. Injury development is not a one off event, this is something that was regularly. The most severe injury development is associated with parent - child relations as the child before the parents open and vulnerable. No one knows how to manipulate the child as a parent. You can imagine that the unborn child is a clean sheet of paper in normal development and maturation of the child a sheet of paper and so should stay, but as a rule, this white sheet of paper written out by parents, and often I can "mash". For example: if the parents wrote on a piece – REJECTION, then the subsequent child will attract rejection (should I be rejected because....). Deprivation of parental love in infancy and adolescent age, on the one hand contributes to the development of an insatiable emotional hunger, and with another – inevitably distorts the emerging way Ya Instability and "insecurity" emotional relationships makes perceptual (lat. perceptio, a perception, and socialis — public) is the perception, understanding and evaluation of the people and social objects (other people, themselves, groups, social communities, etc.), emotional and sensual image of Another non-constant (constant – lat. constant), "fluctuating" (Fluctuation (from lat. fluctuatio fluctuation a term used to describe any fluctuation or any periodic change), the perception of the child from "totally bad" ( rejecting and punishing) to "totally good" (loving and accepting) or permanently becomes a stranger and potentially threatening.
In a situation of deprivation (lat.deprivatio — loss, deprivation of something) baby, actively exploring the world and experiencing the need for support of adult, encounters only emptiness, indifference, uncertainty. This kind of emotional relationships lead to the formation of a wide range of psychopathologies, the Central experience which are the fears of loss, death, emptiness.
adult man goes through several stages of growing up, the first stage at which there is a hidden form of violence is infancy. But while still in the womb, the baby might get injured, but in fact violence is when the mother does not want her child, does not accept it. And when the child reaches adolescence he raises the question "to be or NOT to BE", which will exist throughout his life. This stage can be described as a necessity in existence. Feeling unwanted causes in the child a deep sense of guilt and shame for their existence. Feeling malanotte humiliates the child, which is why many of them don't even resist the violence against them.
case study: advice to me came the girl, with the problem of depression and asked me to help her out of this state.
the Psychologist: How do you understand that You have depression?
Client: I don't want to go anywhere. Don't want to see people, to engage them in dialogue. They annoy me greatly. I was not comfortable to be in public places. I want to cry, towards the close show aggression. It seems to me that don't like me or don't pay enough love and care, at night I often have nightmares. Often reflect on the theme of death. the
Psychologist: what you think manifests a lack of love towards You?
Client: I want my husband was always there for me, cared for me. (The rest of her speech is slipping a little tone of a hurt child).
In subsequent meetings and conversations it became clear that this abandoned child, and raised by a completely strange family. Even in the womb this child was unwanted, and then abandoned. Which explains the depressed client, and not the desire to live. In the process of psychological work with her changed life, sent from his mother "NOT to LIVE", the installation "LIVE". the
Next need to take otdavat (the first years of a child's life). Here may occur following trauma to the development if the mother begins to ignore the needs of the child, then the child begins to ignore yourself. This can lead to the formation of the child's emotions such as mistrust, suspicion, aggression, depression. On the contrary if the mother is the child's giperopekala, didn't take his eyes off him, blew the dust particles, in subsequent such children have a fear of absorption, high levels of anxiety, it is people who provide life safety.
an Important stage in the development of the child is autonomy (1-3 years). Here trauma of development related to separation (separation), because the parents can injure the autonomy of the child, violating his boundaries. At this stage of development the mother should learn to support two processes: the approximation of the distance. Also here it is necessary to designate the following form of injury is an emotional symbiosis, which leads to distortions of the image I, and deprivation. Emotional symbiosis is one of the forms of interdependence, one associated with experiences full of "merger" and "dissolution" in Another, when the boundaries of I are lost. And the symbiotic relationship between mother and child is characterized by the absence, erase in the mind of the parent of the boundaries between "I" and "my baby".
the Next stage where it may be trauma to the development is the love and seksualnosti (3-6 years). Here is important recognition, confirming its intrinsic value from the parent of the opposite sex. The mother should recognize the intrinsic value of the son, and the father – daughter. Otherwise, you can cause injury, which may later begin to manifest themselves in messy relationships with men, if it's a girl, and the boy can begin to "sort out" girls.
Thus, when your article can confidently say one way or another all of us in childhood were injured, but we all have our own injuries. In my opinion, it is important to be either good or bad parent, it is important to realize what consequences can result from the act committed against the child, whom is responsible we are, and what these consequences in future can lead.
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