I wrote...Today I want to continue the topic about "bad" behavior and how it affects the family.
the Theme of stealing from children POPs up in my consultations often. Parents find it difficult to say that their child is stealing - they just feel guilty for the misdeed of his son. Under this guilt they formed the opinion that they are bad parents thereby exacerbating the situation. br>
I was approached by the girl's parents 9 years. The girl was stealing money from the wallets of parents. They have taken different actions that do not lead to the desired result. When the amount reached several thousand, they asked for help.
the Family, both parents are working, trying to give their children the best etc. are Not going to describe all of their family story, will write the causes of stealing, which I found out during work.
the girls at school had girlfriends with whom she spent a lot of time. Those girls parents gave pocket money, our no. Because self-esteem she was reduced, she felt, to say the least, uncomfortable. Seeing as they can afford to buy something and she doesn't, its more Gloria, and classmates used to say something offensive about it. As she did not ask parents to give her pocket money, they did not give, saying that she has everything she needs and money. That's when she decided on the first theft. br>
in the Beginning it was a small amount that she could afford to buy something tasty and treat friends. Those, of course, said nice words and the girl began to steal more to make expensive gifts. br>
I think you have already understood why she took the money from your parents - Yes, she was trying to "buy" a good relationship to his peers. We also found that parents had little praise and warm words have, do, and when doing something - the parents silent, that's what you do, what kind words?!
In General has established contact parents with daughter. Now she gets a lot more in her family and she does not have to "buy" from others that it lacks. Of course, self-evaluation is not fully stabilized, but, clearly, the work goes in the right direction! br>
Well, that another family became easier to understand, hear, and support each other! Yes, let so will be always....and all....))))
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