the Mother may reject or be cold to be hard or indifferent, and perhaps to stifle his love, attention, control. In this and in another case, the daughter's happiness this brings.
Very often with my mom was yelling, recrimination, pain, misunderstanding, unwillingness to tolerate... "Why am I alive?" in exchange for "I'm the life of the put, and you!"... It is a conflict that is very difficult to handle. Each has its own truth, his own pain, his own attitude.
Sometimes this process is open, loud, its unbearable and tragic. And sometimes hidden. Looks all right, quietly, and inside the cat scratching or emptiness. The mother seems to have... But its not...
From the moment of conception often future relationships daughters and mothers will be predefined. this long-Awaited pregnancy or have thoughts about abortion and the news of the pregnancy caused the woman fear, terror, opposition? Would a woman 9 months to wait or the third term to decide whether to leave or not? Currently, the advanced technologies we know the child feels and "hears" the thoughts of his mother.
Birth. unconscious adult daughter will always see mother's the one who caused incredible suffering. Starting from the moment of birth, when the inhuman pain during passage through the birth canal compresses the head and the daughter is banished from the Paradise of a womb.
His unconscious memory of the daughter sees the mother that is not allowed to be myself. And it was often accompanied by shouts, slaps, degrading words, the absence of her there when she was needed.
All the same is true in reverse. Daughter to mother suffering. It is a source of terrible generic suffering, sleepless nights, screaming his little girl sometimes all night, and tears when
And at each stage of maturation and interaction with the mother are laid and develop certain processes which will continue to affect a woman's life actually depends on them, will she be happy or not.
the First stage is from birth to three years. This is the period when newborn daughter is completely dependent on the mother. If the mother is kind, gentle, emotionally open, it forms the child's so-called "basic trust in the world" - the inner sense of security, belief that the world is a friendly, comfortable and resource place. If the mother is cold, not enough caring or aggressive, then the girl for life can be formed anxiety, inexplicable fear to live, a tendency to melancholy and the inability to enjoy life.
In the second stage of development (ages three to six to seven years) the greatest influence on the formation of personality girl becomes father. He teaches her to interact with the male world, shows how to interact in marriage a man and a woman.
the role of the mother in this period is to continue to give love, tenderness and acceptance, not trying to compete with her husband for the right to raise a child. If the mother and father are not in the best relationship, if the father does not perform his functions, and their takes on the mother if a girl is deprived of autonomy, as do the overprotective mom, she formed a distorted view of male and female social roles, the self, suffering her self-esteem, social responsibility, hard work, determination, femininity.
after the age of seven years girl comes back again under her mother's wing, but not as a baby but like a little woman. Problem mom gently and lovingly teach his daughter the art of being a wife, mother, hostess. But, unfortunately, instead of accepting and understanding, my daughter often from mothers meet criticism, distrust, increased monitoring, restrictions...
Devoid of unconditional motherly love and a positive life example, the girl stops growing. Psychologically she's stuck in adolescence with his usual complexes and insecurities, fears, irresponsibility, confusion. Growing up physically, emotionally she remains "minor". It carries a lot of prejudices and taboos that prevent her to be happy.
In the end, the relationship with the mother affect the rest of his life to his daughter:
- On your attitude ("something is wrong", "I'm not right", hands not from that place grow, etc.)
- your relationship with men (relationships exist, or they do not suit you; don't meet the men; either you have a lot of claims to men, or they constantly criticize you and find fault)
- On your attitude to money and material goods (money back to back, or they are given great difficulty and effort)
- On your strategy for the conduct of life (to allow yourself to use/to be comfortable all the time to fight with the world for a place in the sun/to prove/to survive etc.)
- On your health (both physical and emotional –illness, fatigue, apathy, depression)
- On your realization in life, in society, in work, in creativity (most often concerned with what to do and not what you like)
etc.
ie, you have already adult and you have a life, but this "tail" reaches out for you from childhood.
it is Therefore important to look at your relationship with your mother to see to be honest, what happened, what role the mother played, how it affected your life and heal yourself from this influence. It is also important to find resources that carries mother, which will allow you to unleash your potentials and talents, to find support and love.
All this is possible working with the image of the mother through the initiation and the subconscious. We re-live his childhood, "rewriting" your life program the way we want to. The result is firmly fixed in the form of new skills, habits, attitudes and behavioural norms. A woman becomes more confident and coherent, freed from negative emotions that have accumulated since childhood, she has energy and enjoys the taste of life again, getting better personal life and relations with children, in work and/or work, a period of prosperity. It becomes abundant blooming successful and happy!
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