In his inner world is good, you king. In the outside world – is unlikely, but in the inner world have to be this way. And as a good ruler, your job is to keep your inner world in order. Ie. the main power of any man is evident in his internal reality, not the external. Actual power is the result of good governance in their internal reality (theas I said in the previous section, actions in the external world is the result of three events with processes).
Often people try to affect the outer reality is to change your inner reality. Trying to implement its external power, which is instead to use the internal power that needs to be. And fail.
to Control the appearance of reality only makes sense if we are talking about physical environment, inanimate objects.
what you wear, what you eat, what are you looking at your eyes is an external reality that is well controllable. But as soon as we are talking about other people, there is often the power ends. If you are not your subordinates and not your child, you can't tell another person what to say and how to behave.
the Best thing to do if something hurts your inner reality so that you're not doing is politely asking others to cooperate or to leave this space. But does not specify, demand, criticize, devalue. Of course, I'm not talking about situations of violence, assault, I'm talking about the daily routine of a typical household situation.
the External reality is a common area, not your Kingdom. Your Kingdom is your inner reality.
Psychological borders - a concept which is directly related to the existence of two realities, internal and external.
Returning to power in his inner world, how to understand that you are good that you are a good host?
Test of coherence get a picture of the world and their place in it. All parts of the mental process (your sensations, feelings, thoughts, actions) must be interrelated and considered based on the context (what is happening outside, with some stimuli from the environment are your sensations, feelings, thoughts). If consistency is lost, or something feels like an extra or missing – then something important is not realized, some part of reality is overlooked by passes by you.
Violations of power in their domestic space is: "I can't trust, I'm not sure that I feel what I feel". A man so builds the contact with the environment, a way to doubt yourself is a way to stay in the relationship with the environment in which it is located.
When a person says that he himself does not trust, it can be assumed that his thoughts do not coincide with his physical and emotional response. Such a person is not used to give importance to his bodily reactions and feelings, so he thinks he can just cancel their reactions with the first and second steps. To fit them into his thoughts. Think about it-people can be almost anything. Such a person is easier to assume that he is misinterpreting my own emotions and feelings than to abandon the convenient "correct" thoughts.
doubt yourself, it is important to distinguish between the two types. It is important to doubt yourself is the way to develop your inner power. Healthy doubt is a tool that supports active attention. It's one thing to doubt, to be more attentive to yourself, building a coherent picture of what is happening, which is not necessarily pleasant, but realistic. It's another thing to doubt that opposite - blurring the focus, make dull eyes, covered by a veil. Such doubt is a way to lull his inner king and Queen. Such doubts destroy your ability a control, immobilized, frozen.
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