Which design? What is the drawing? Are you talking about? This is not a profession... My daughter is an economist. It is resolved and is not negotiable.
Vitaly, dad, Alena, rapidly enters the room, usually away from the session daughter a big chunk ("I have two words..."). A spacious room in his presence becomes less.
He fills all space, although he is not tall and slender. Brown eyes bulging, loud hissing whisper, the conviction that they are right. Looks down with obvious superiority, gives direction on what I should pay attention this time and what must convince his daughter.
Alena sits in the lobby, slouching, drooping, with tears in eyes. It will quicken only when you are in the office, and the father closes the door.
Her life the last two years subject to strict regulations, even on vacation daily classes in mathematics. Alena hated math. Periodically the girl's psychotic episodes. Then she lies down on the bed, turns his face to the wall and crying.
Her dad focused all efforts on the preparation only daughter to University. Even almost scored – appears at the office for a few hours. Wife walked out not even for a second, third plan. The Pope constantly hear "we", "us", as a mother of three children. "We on the Russian yesterday, got four". "In math we are now best in class." It is seen that a proud daughter. Vitaly calls the daughter of his business.
Father Alena good, loving, caring. I understand it. Childhood and adolescence occurred in the beginning of the nineties. Then the main thing for parents to feed children and to survive themselves. They had clubs and sections, not to the choice of school and University.
there Came other times. Vitaly Ivanovich, like many mom and dad strives to give his children something that he had not received from their parents. The best of intentions, of course. That deprives the right of choice of future profession.
Who to be? Think about it every graduate. The teenager to make a conscious choice at the age of 17 is difficult. It resembles a knight at the crossroads with the famous Vasnetsov's paintings. He stands at the crossroads instead of traffic lights and a huge stone in his hands and the inscription:
go Right... or the First way of choice of profession, the authoritarian
There are moms and dads who decide for the child what it to be. They have in stock is a strategic list of professions. There's "fashion" specialty type of the doctor, the lawyer, the economist and others, and they, have dreamed of themselves, but who did not. Then all of the force and family budget rush on tutoring in core subjects. Tutors will not touch, sacred.
Imagine the picture. A creative person has finished economic faculty. This person will be bored in the workplace and hate figures, reports, balances and advances. She at least married, thoughts, strength and love will give her husband and children, and will sit out the allotted time. Option option: clean and dry. I noticed at the consultations, accountants and economists children are protesting, do not go to kindergarten. I certainly do not claim to truth in the last instance, but they are sick so often that the mother is not working, staying home with them. To the General delight of both children and mothers.
And young men? For men important career. Work unloved? Then he gets the watch scrolls down news feed, swallows coffee in scary amounts, communicating in social networks. Maybe drinking to begin from a dissatisfaction with life. Success is rarely achieved when you don't get joy from working.
you Can change profession. If you have money and desire.
Alone are the heirs of the family business. These know who will be in the future. To go from a lower position to the head, the children work from childhood, on holiday. Here is the same law that if a child has the ability to conduct business and desire, it will be a success. But if the son or daughter resist, do not want to continue the parent case? But it all depends on the strength of character of the heir... and my mother's support. Or the help of a psychologist.
Alain, whose father decided to become a dad economist, does not resist, no strength . Resists spine. And she's crying. She loves to draw, graduated from art school. She dreams of becoming a cartoonist. But my dad has another business plan. Alice is an economist like Karl Marx.
go to the Left... or the second choice of profession, permissive
Another category of parents let the choice of the profession of heir to chance. Don't bother, no time. The decision is made rapidly. Five in math? Maybe a math teacher? A doctor? With these points in chemistry in the medical is nothing to do! They heard that in the world there are Tutors, but are unsure of their existence. Or money sorry.
Parents trust the choices of a teenager. Great news. But graduates still not enough life experience. Sometimes go to the University, together with friends. Don't understand their needs. Not enough present who would like and could be.
Light a childhood dream to become a doctor.She was just in the hospital, injections, operations, Teddy bears and dolls, was writing prescriptions in Latin – taught grandmother. But for admission in medical need chemistry and biology, and in Svetnoy school teachers are weak in these subjects. In mathematics, on the contrary, strong.
Before the prom mom explains to Light that the medical it is not shining. She knew about the dream daughter, but it was not before. Mom remembered about five in mathematics, trying to persuade to go to University in applied mathematics. Of Lights, a good programmer, although she's not loved. A midlife crisis, it is necessary to change something. The easiest was to change profession. Psychology close to medicine. Learning bring joy. Successful and popular, but how much time lost!
If the son or daughter know from childhood what they wanted to be, that make life easier for parents. Especially if the kids get serious, responsible and honors. Then, without drawing attention to himself, pass the exam and suddenly find themselves in the first wave received by the selected UNIVERSITY. Dream, not children. In nature, however, are not as often as I'd like.
just go... or third choice profession optimum
As you can see, both the first and second embodiments. Fortunately, in stock is another. It is necessary for him simply to know the child's interests and needs, and be attentive to him. He loves to do, what motivates, Humanities or a techie? A leader or a follower? Alone or need other people?
You can tell him about modern professions, to bring to his work. Remember that the child loves to do.
He or she since the childhood treats surrounding cats? With a passion for making chemical experiments and blows up the toilet? Enthusiastically considering a world Atlas or know the names of minerals?
Or as in the case with Alena. The child loves to draw and dreams of becoming an artist. Yeah, not van Gogh and not even Malevich, but show a teenager a profession where the ability to draw is welcome. For example, designer, architect, fashion designer... costume designer, animator... In the end, the paintings adorning the walls of our homes, is also written by someone.
it Was time, and van Gogh and Malevich, no one knew. But if the parents of future geniuses did not allow them to draw, because this money will not earn, the world would have lost two great artists and bought two accidents... managers? sellers? engineers? No matter what they could be. But certainly not those who have become.
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