Here wants, for example, people go to the sea and even can do it. And spouse(s) can't or won't. And go without a second person it seems a betrayal, the idea causes guilt. And her resentment at this second. And went the tangle of negative trail, time and effort with health steal.
Or if you were offended - no matter the case or not - and you have, consequently, feel guilty. Order, and in fact was offended that using guilt to manipulate. Deliberately - hardly, usually just on the machine. But it doesn't change your situation. You bad.
And maybe it offended you, again, for business or children's your idea of justice to run into a mismatch between expectations and reality. Whether the subject of the grievances at the same time feel guilty or even knows about it, as a government, for example, doesn't matter. Bad, again, for you.
"Offence – it is a poison we drink ourselves and hope that dies the other person" (C) brad Yates.
Examples may be an infinite number, but the exhaust we have a problem with feelings that needs to be solved, because otherwise it casts a shadow at all on the rest of life. The type of stone in my Shoe: it is only in him and bad at the same everything in the world.
Solved this problem in 2 hours:
- to Deal with feelings and be aligned in the positive
- to Deal with the cause and never for her and like her not to be
the First is the matter of technique, which I will now describe. Wrote, of course, a lot of times, but teaching consists of repetition, so read and apply. But the second is to diminish the importance of the subject, the subject himself, that is, changes in the Outlook.
so, what to do with feelings? To begin with, that guilt and resentment - it's 2 sides of the same coin. They are about the same felt in the same areas of the body. This is the first of our emotions, familiar from childhood, the strongest and most fundamental. We can cover at least pity, even anger. But at the root of the offense or fault.
So I took them for separate consideration. Let's define where and how there is resentment. Stomach, chest, throat, lips, nose, eyes and forehead temples - the pressure or, conversely, the sucking void. With the guilt all the same, only added more anxiety, or fear.
What to do:
1) try to solve in the same way, which led to the problem. In the case of grievances to share feelings with its source in the mode I messages. “I hurt when people do that, I feel terrible, let's see!”. In the case of guilt - ask for forgiveness, to recognize its negative impact and to offer to correct the situation.
If it succeeds, problem solved. If not, start poking around in himself:
2) the 4-7-8 Breathing method.
3) Implemented a method of Recapitulating the situation and person.
4) Allow yourself what did the other person.
5) Conduct the procedure for Ho'oponopono to the second party.
6) Do 7 steps to a state of here-and-now.
7) go Back to point 1 and still doing it too.
You are free!
to Reduce the importance of the incident and its participants are not easy to succeed. This requires theoretical preparation, knowledge of the structure of personality, as well as transactional and scenario analysis.
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