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...and now for sports, it seems to have started. Food finally got: discovered lots of different substitutes for conventional white sugar, have lost the skill to keep the burgers so that all of them are not falling out. Even the fresh air surprisingly firmly entrenched in the diet. And then BAM! Instead of baked cheesecakes, you get them fried, because I forgot the time to buy a parchment. And another was a workout in an extraordinary way has passed.

And here you already find yourself at the last judgment, on his knees before his own conscience, or even worse, before sense of guilt or even shame. And here begins the unpleasant litigation. After justice, i.e. with themselves. And trading with yourself is not easy, is not so easy to bribe. The thin voice of a perfectionist will still whisper that here, my dear, you were pleased to smalodushnichal. How is it to be?

the First thing I recommend doing in any unclear situation with their vague but not very pleasant feelings is to perform, and whether or not you really hurt yourself? Ask yourself this question. And, brushing aside her feelings and emotions, dry and pragmatic sign (literally pen and paper) what is the harm. And weigh in grams. Well, for example, you really fried once in the last six months, cheesecakes instead of bake them. How many grams of harmful substances, carcinogens and burnt oil was in your body? 5 g? 15 gr? Well. How much energy, thoughts, time and resources you spent in vain to negotiate with his conscience in later afternoon? For me, it's something more capacious than 5-15 grams. This is something which could be productive to do some difficult work (half a day), to go somewhere close or open some business, and just happy and happy to get through the day. And they have lived joyless and miserable. And you never get a chance to pereproshit again. Open the door to this thought and let it there inside you relax. Relish that thought.

If the damage is really done, there are a few further actions. Just choose for yourself in a particular situation:

• to correct the situation, compensating for something else
• to recognize the error
• to make amends

Ask yourself: "what else can I do to feel more comfortable?". Like, 2 extra round Jogging for extra brownie helps to deal with the guilt, isn't it?..

oddly enough, but probably the most effective way not to be tormented by pangs of conscience is to let yourself not be perfect. Just accept and forgive yourself for any things that you would normally criticize. Give yourself some attention, love, patience and understanding. If you are in a whole six months have not missed a single workout, and then for some reason was one single shot, instead of eaten alive – praise yourself! Because this is only the first time ALREADY! Whole! Six months! Find all the reason itself is not to blame and to praise. Let us take the resource and motivation, not humiliation and disapproval. Remorse is an internal conflict between reality and morality. Suffering is caused by the fact that people just can't myself to forgive something. Therefore: forgive yourself, and you will be happy!

If you started to make excuses...you can not avoid the feelings of guilt and remorse. So avoid situations where you have someone forced to explain their actions, thoughts and preferences. And inside do not let yourself to do it even before himself!

According to statistics, people at least 1-3 times in a day returns to some unpleasant event from the recent or distant past, for which he berates himself and feels guilty. And now count. At least 5 minutes a day to "criticize yourself". In 2.5 hours! And in the year – more than a day! Now ask yourself – how does that feel really helps to correct the situation? And, for that matter, it really is adequate punishment for what you just a person who has all the rights to errors, and, of course, commit them?

Friends, just be aware of one simple thing: guilt, shame, and a troubled conscience at times only exacerbates the harm from our wrong actions. Because you and your emotional state extinguish, Sutulova shoulders, reducing the eyebrows to the nose, becoming dissatisfied with himself, his actions, his life in General... And when you yourself don't love, what could be worse? So stay away from your mistakes constructively: analyze, draw conclusions, take for yourself in the experience of any developments, and flip the page. Not musolte, chew on half a day of futile mental chewing gum that is sucking all the juice (and not only the digestive...). Made a mistake – realized – concluded for the future – went on to live happily ever after. Aspire to this formula, honestly try, and once you have it, and the truth will out!