If long and hard to show people to themselves in one specific role, it is weird to wonder what you are waiting from you solely in accordance with this proposed "picture". From "Superman" waiting for protection; from the "Cinderella" of patience, humility and caring; from "little red riding hood" - pies and adventure...
People "pull" on certain images, and then can not place all his nature entirely in the given framework: "close", "rubbing", then there's something here for extra "lives". You have to get stuck in an awkward position to appear what himself said.
moreover, not only the "actor in one role," agrees to adhere to the rigorous scenario, but also the surrounding are forced to reckon with it, that encourages people to make a choice: either to adapt someone else's script, or to leave the relationship.
In life, everything in the store, that we purchased and I want the selected item met our needs. After a long study the product, understand the nuances. And, if the transaction is fair, then everyone is happy. Otherwise, the item is returned, and all disappointed.
In relationships, we too "commit the transaction", focusing on what the person says about themselves. And the more honest it is, above all, with himself, the more real presents to others... the more varied build relationships that allow much.
But... if the role is so important, that was a kind of "skeleton" that always has to have other you frustration or aggression in your address, if you can't justify someone else's expectations, which he himself has imposed.
"Superman" is not just a weakness; "Cinderella" - free; "the Princess" - feminist views of life; "Baby" is forbidden to grow up and become independent, otherwise, it will be immediately replaced with another "Baby".
Such relationships are full of accusations: "I am for you, and you..."
And it is not about love or respect, but about power and control.
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