When you read what is happening in the world.
No, not just "read", namely the role of the father of their children browse and see the terrible: in schools (suicide, homicide), the army (bullying), in medicine (overlooked), social network (that calls to suicide, to murder), the street (was beaten, inflicted injury).
Then I want to immediately and permanently protect their children from this fear, in fact, from his fear of contact with the world. The illusion of control begins to raise his head and in all serious says it all: "you need more to attract them, not to leave, to look, to observe, to view their record, ask". In this situation, so I want to come to a specialist-a psychologist, saying that my sunadokei something happens, I don't know what it is, Onon completely out of hand. Bind it to them!
And the more fear, the more control and the more you forget one important thing.
Important, well-known, but very difficult to execute.
Love does not tolerate the control. She very well understands freedom and is friends with her. Love also goes hand in hand with respect and acceptance.
But the parent of fear, from the big and pure love develops even common sense. For the safety of children, I can go at all: to violate the privacy of correspondence, to talk with teachers about the mysteries of the children to shout, even to use violence for their benefit.
This is a very delicate moment. If a child, teen, turns bad, with terrible groups in social networks, if he's talking about suicide, becoming very introverted, have a cautious and need to take him to a specialist. The thing is that sometimes (the parents, incidentally, is not always to blame), because once again: sometimes occurs so that our terrible fear for the child causes it to increase the distance and go in all serious.
you Know, as for himself, father of three boys, and for you I have no ready recipe, I'm scared too, but I devised the following tactics: I very much fear, we want to tell the children. Come to that, what do you fear most and talk to him about it and call the reasons for his fear. I hope they will understand. And then try to think how to be further.
according to an old Hasidic song: "the Whole world is a very narrow bridge and the main thing – do not be afraid!"
I rephrase it: "it's important not to be afraid to talk about your fear!"
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