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In my webinar on " How to raise these new children," one mother asked this question: how to better determine the inclinations of the child, contributing to the future of vocational guidance, 12 years?
I had to give a detailed explanation on the topic : "Respect for Life, dear parents!.." The idea of the man as easily programmable device are greatly exaggerated! And every one of You knows it! .. It's not even that parents often impose on children THEIR elections, and that the true vocation, the sphere of activities that will coincide with the potential of a person, just cannot be detected early, until he, this potential is not accumulated!.. Growing a person needs to accumulate a certain life experience, to go through some tutorials before inherent in it the ability to certain activities can be efficiently!..
I am often approached by parents with these words: "Who will grow out of it?.. He is not interested in anything!.. Any mug does not want to walk!.." -etc., Respectively, in the family of such a child gets treated like a slacker and loser.
Dear parents!
Remember their classmates – as a rule, loafers and bullies do in adult life what they love and prosper. And diligent children, to follow the advice of adults , as adults often feel cheated: too disparate to be the effort and result, effort and a sense of satisfaction from the resulting life.
Why?
Because a man only in appearance is a product of the "environment education". In fact, each of us, as cupronickel spoon in the electrolytic solution attracts to itself, accumulates from the environment unique, peculiar only in its life the program of experiments. And these experiences determine our future life, not the events in which we participated.
One child after performing at a concert in the music school had put it in my mental piggy Bank feeling of excitement in the audience, and the other – at least able musical – always remember your cold hands and trembling knees... One child a spontaneous fight in the school is encouraged to become a champion in karate and the other "six" of a local authority... One, looking at the injured cat faints from the sight of blood, the other becoming a veterinarian.
I Recently read a biographical sketch about the man who became the conscience of an era for several generations of Soviet people. It turned out that the teenager he's not just a bad school, but was almost uncontrollable. The boy's parents were arrested, he grew up with his grandmother, and in his own words at the age of 14 "sample" to follow him "Moscow-Arbat crook, thug. Boots in an accordion, vest, jacket, furuuchi, fringe and a Golden fix" (doesn't it remind You of a modern teen idols: rock musicians in piercings and tattoos?) br>
However, precisely because this boy grew up, the poet who wrote, among others, the well-known soulful strings:
Grape bone in warm earth bury,
And kiss the vine and ripe grapes and pluck,
And friends convene at the love your heart attitude.
But, anyway, why on earth this eternal live?
( For those who don't know, call the name of the author: Bulat Okudzhava)
Watching children of different ages, asking adults about what they remember about childhood, studying biographies of famous people, I made this conclusion: People come into this world, holding on by a thread your Soul like a balloon. And in certain life periods, there is a "download" of a certain part of this emotional baggage, often without external influences, but often after some minor to other people experience. Ppase – and the person suddenly sees the world differently, their plans...
those children whose parents did NOT PREVENT them from their fears and expectations, quickly mastered the New Part of Yourself and begin to live a new life. And those who he mentored or trained – missed the moment of placing myself in another portion of its uniqueness!.. With all its consequences.
So the best thing we can do is BELIEVE in your children, to live close to take off so that we would like to emulate, and to treat them as mysterious phenomena. Then they and we have a chance to enrich this world with her unique contribution to it – is not important, skill whether it's Barber, or the creation of new computer technologies.
the Main thing is that man doing HIS job can not be unhappy!..
In my webinar on " How to raise these new children," one mother asked this question: how to better determine the inclinations of the child, contributing to the future of vocational guidance, 12 years?
I had to give a detailed explanation on the topic : "Respect for Life, dear parents!.." The idea of the man as easily programmable device are greatly exaggerated! And every one of You knows it! .. It's not even that parents often impose on children THEIR elections, and that the true vocation, the sphere of activities that will coincide with the potential of a person, just cannot be detected early, until he, this potential is not accumulated!.. Growing a person needs to accumulate a certain life experience, to go through some tutorials before inherent in it the ability to certain activities can be efficiently!..
I am often approached by parents with these words: "Who will grow out of it?.. He is not interested in anything!.. Any mug does not want to walk!.." -etc., Respectively, in the family of such a child gets treated like a slacker and loser.
Dear parents!
Remember their classmates – as a rule, loafers and bullies do in adult life what they love and prosper. And diligent children, to follow the advice of adults , as adults often feel cheated: too disparate to be the effort and result, effort and a sense of satisfaction from the resulting life.
Why?
Because a man only in appearance is a product of the "environment education". In fact, each of us, as cupronickel spoon in the electrolytic solution attracts to itself, accumulates from the environment unique, peculiar only in its life the program of experiments. And these experiences determine our future life, not the events in which we participated.
One child after performing at a concert in the music school had put it in my mental piggy Bank feeling of excitement in the audience, and the other – at least able musical – always remember your cold hands and trembling knees... One child a spontaneous fight in the school is encouraged to become a champion in karate and the other "six" of a local authority... One, looking at the injured cat faints from the sight of blood, the other becoming a veterinarian.
I Recently read a biographical sketch about the man who became the conscience of an era for several generations of Soviet people. It turned out that the teenager he's not just a bad school, but was almost uncontrollable. The boy's parents were arrested, he grew up with his grandmother, and in his own words at the age of 14 "sample" to follow him "Moscow-Arbat crook, thug. Boots in an accordion, vest, jacket, furuuchi, fringe and a Golden fix" (doesn't it remind You of a modern teen idols: rock musicians in piercings and tattoos?) br>
However, precisely because this boy grew up, the poet who wrote, among others, the well-known soulful strings:
Grape bone in warm earth bury,
And kiss the vine and ripe grapes and pluck,
And friends convene at the love your heart attitude.
But, anyway, why on earth this eternal live?
( For those who don't know, call the name of the author: Bulat Okudzhava)
Watching children of different ages, asking adults about what they remember about childhood, studying biographies of famous people, I made this conclusion: People come into this world, holding on by a thread your Soul like a balloon. And in certain life periods, there is a "download" of a certain part of this emotional baggage, often without external influences, but often after some minor to other people experience. Ppase – and the person suddenly sees the world differently, their plans...
those children whose parents did NOT PREVENT them from their fears and expectations, quickly mastered the New Part of Yourself and begin to live a new life. And those who he mentored or trained – missed the moment of placing myself in another portion of its uniqueness!.. With all its consequences.
So the best thing we can do is BELIEVE in your children, to live close to take off so that we would like to emulate, and to treat them as mysterious phenomena. Then they and we have a chance to enrich this world with her unique contribution to it – is not important, skill whether it's Barber, or the creation of new computer technologies.
the Main thing is that man doing HIS job can not be unhappy!..
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