Verbal signals issuing false
Fixation of only some non-verbal signals and psycho-physiological manifestations are not sufficient to determine how sincere our source. In addition to direct observation of human behavior, is the importance and the extent to which we are attentive to his statements. Here we mean not only the semantic content of a communication, and the nature and orientation of the information that we receive. So, if during communication the interlocutor is abusing the following expressions, we should exercise caution in their conclusions and to be very careful.
1. If our interlocutor evades explanation of some specific facts, refers to the lack of information provided that these themes and questions are among those that cause unpleasant feelings and memories.
Examples:
· I don't want to talk about it.
· something can't remember...
· I don't see the point in this discussion.
· don't even know how to answer this question.
· don't ask me such stupid questions.
· didn't what do You think about me that way...
2. Partner extremely aggressively and persistently emphasizes his honesty repeats it when no apparent reason, insists on our confirmation that we believe in him.
Examples:
· I swear to you the health of their children, parents...
· Yes, let me fail on this place if it's a lie.
· You need, you just have to believe me.
· This is as true as...
· I Swear to God I'm telling the truth, believe me, You can not believe it.
· You can't doubt that I speak the truth, I know You, You always for justice.
No wonder the Eastern sages said: "You said again – I believe you repeated, and I questioned, you said the third time, and I realized that you're lying."
3. Our interlocutor is trying to give us sympathy, trust, pity, referring to the facts that previously had no value, trying to win, although the relationship has never expected special closeness.
Examples:
· You know I'm an honest man.
· You know me like no other, I am not able to cheat...
· Well, who-who, but I...
· I Have the same problem as You, but...
· people and You will understand me, I'm sure...
4. The source showing unwarranted rudeness, directness, emphasizes the impossibility to doubt his words, hostile for no apparent reason, which could cause aggression or discontent.
Examples:
· Yes, I do You don't have to answer!
· you Know what!
· Yes, as You might think, shame on You!?
· I do not want You, even after this talk!
· I hate what You say, I am outraged to the core!
· how would You be treated this way, I will not allow this..!
· do You think You're so smart, You can do anything!?
5. Partner uses evasive answers do not carry any specific information, without explanation and without answering our question.
Examples:
· see, just like I said.
· I knew it...
· You respect me?
· Yes, you are a serious man.
· I'm not sure...
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