have You ever noticed a change of these conditions:
- Yes, I do cool! Who if not me? Cooler than me just eggs....? And back straight and your chin up. And the salary needs to be wider and more impressive partner Yes povarenkina. And then suddenly time! Where'd everyone go?
I can not do anything. Where am I to Suzanne's Rudolfovna? She won some Breasts! She has won a diploma red. Nothing I have will not work...
stormy you from side to side , and control that is not visible. Agree, hard to achieve regular success.
This is the same narcissistic conflict: I the King, no one and nothing. All of course from my childhood as always, Yes of the parents, who by the way are not to blame, we did not have and wanted to do better. Just thoughtless words can wound a child's psyche, which records it all and holds. A culture of communication and mutual support in the school not taught very much, and not all families know. Here and throw mom and dad to a child inconsistent estimates and judgments.
adult Hard narcissist to stay in the equilibrium perception of themselves: to underestimate, to overestimate. And there is always a hovering question: where is Susannah R.? Far behind me? Or am I still far away it is?
But all is not lost! One way: seeking the middle ground, adhering to the reality principle. Learn to realistically assess their capabilities and do not depreciate yourself as a person. One is not possible. It is not possible to re-grow alone. Some children are not growing. That Narcissus, too, needs someone who will always support, reflect and become a witness to this growth. I, of course, about the psychologist, about the therapist.
My clients (and I am in my therapy) I came to the conclusion that there are two very faithful to the means by which you can afford to look objectively at yourself and come to the Golden mean. The first is to be approximately equal among people, events, celebrations, conferences, meetings. Regular updates of acquaintances or just stay in a crowd of people sooner or later will force you to use the power of comparison and to look at themselves differently. Second: work, work and again work! Nothing ennobles and not happy man as the results of their own activities. Remember as a child proudly shows off her crafts or drawing. Most likely Suzanne R. valuable breast size, and the colour of the diploma.
I wish you to be always am with the results of their activities. And most importantly , to be near you was always someone ,who will support, who will witness and "reflect". I of course on psychotherapy.
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