And you're sure she's crying to a psychologist or a friend? I assure you she's definitely someone crying. Just because she is a girl. Even if you think or she seek to impress, strong and confident, able to solve all the problems.
I go to the gym and see a biological advantage men: I roll hard that they lift many times! Similarly, in social life, where for men a simple exchange of views, for a woman can be rude, cruel and insensitive. The lady can stand, but if she's still "girl", she needs someone to release that stress. But if no one, then she will either become bullies or will cry to someone else.
in General, sometimes very easy to be man enough to let your lady to cry, complain, maybe even you, to Express their difficult feelings. And voila: it seems nothing has changed, but it was good. And what is most paradoxical, it will take you a real man, my knight.
how to react when your girl is crying?
Not:
- to portray a stone wall,
- analyze the situation and take stock
- to learn cold tone to respond correctly in such situations,
- to explain the behavior of people and
- even more to stand on their side!
Worth:
- his whole appearance to show that you are there and she can tell you everything and rely on you
- hold her
- in any case, to be on her side, even if it is not right (to discuss the subject of righteousness is possible only in the resource state)
- to apologize if you are guilty, even if you don't understand what is your fault – that you will show your power (again, to discuss guilt and innocence is only possible in a good state of mind).
on the other hand, a man can be confused:
— When my wife is in hysterics, she's such a terrible thing to say, it seems that really there is no love and there never was.
how would You feel if a small child will yell parents: "I hate you! I'll blow and I'll take the other parents, good!" You're not going to treat these words seriously? A wise parent in this moment realize that the child is unable to cope with emotions. He shows patience and love to the child, will help him cope with difficult feelings, hug and say that you still love him. Similarly, the adult a person sometimes can not cope with feelings. We've all grown up, unfortunately.
the Ability to cope with their emotions and the emotions of the partner require a certain "maturity": the ability to understand their condition, the true causes of difficult conditions (e.g., fatigue, stress, hunger...), the ability to separate feelings from interpretations, stress, confidence in ability to cope with problems... That's all that can be called mindfulness or psychological literacy. And it can be learned.
And be in your Union of male strength and female weakness.
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a Lot of this interesting and useful you learn in the group:
ART of LOVE 19, 20 may.
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