How often to new year holidays we have a feeling that we need to take stock, made, executed, omitted.
Well, when in truth it was a successful year or rather this year we did a lot in order to feel success. Someone success in professional life, one in family and personal matter, and then for the New year, we allow ourselves to be happy, to reward ourselves, we are proud of ourselves and friends, then the holiday and winter break!
And if not? No such apparent victories, a lot of unfinished, is something that we are unable to do, and maybe managed to destroy what came before it, but to create a new failed? Then what kind of mood we are waiting for the holidays? The results of life in a year is deplorable, plus the accumulated fatigue, frustration, unfulfilled expectations, or maybe loneliness, no feeling of joy, happiness.
At first all right, the situation of success, the feeling of success of joy, flight, happiness. just continue in the new year holidays.
What to do next? Of course, you can go alone on a couch in a dark room, blaming himself and the whole world for their problems and to spend the holidays. You can cry to everyone about their worries or difficulties, or try to forget or to dissolve the company of acquaintances, friends, hoping so badly not to experience a failure in the past year. Clothe yourself order the biggest loser of the year!
I suggest another option.
Take yourself in hand, and bring along some work.
1.There is a rule - No lesions, there is feedback. From each of their events for the year, which was perceived as a defeat, or success, only take feedback, asking questions themselves. Good taught me this situation. What I have learned/learned about yourself? Why is this happening to me?
after Gathering information in the responses, you will realize that any situation, even one that you took a negative-learning for you, developing you. By definition, any situation is neutral, what feelings and emotions we attached to it, determines how we will live after it, or staying in the negative or taking a experience, go lightly on in life.
2.Any of our behavior is the intention and it is always positive. In any of our act or action of others towards us,there is a positive intent.The ability to identify,gives you the opportunity to change their behavior to neutralize the conflict.The ability to understand the positive intention that we pursue,gives us another opportunity to try to get it without the negative or negative actions or patterns of behavior.It's like a high,but at least to forgive myself for everything.
3.Ask yourself, what would you be guilty before him, for what you might experience before a sense of shame?
what you should blame or shame yourself? So to punish myself, to keep myself in a depressed condition. Most often, there is some belief, written from childhood in our thinking. Children's state of guilt for everything that can happen in the world of family, loved ones. Children are very easy to digest parental prosecution themselves admit that they are guilty in everything. Review of this children are not a resource state, will allow you to easily enter into an adult state of self-acceptance with all your actions, behavior and forgive yourself for it.
4.Sostavit a list of their deeds, accomplishments, lessons in life, all of what you have achieved for the year, what have you learned this year. The most valuable is the knowledge that we received! It is enough to recognize that everyone has their own scale of success, the size of the steps on the ladder of achievement "for its success".
the End of the calendar year and the new year holidays, it's only a date, so don't draw the line after which everything is useless. Starts January and you realize that life goes on, and new year holidays, just a break, rest, ability to look back, to better see themselves, as with the hand, but in any case not to go into the past, as they say in NLP in the past, only for the experience or resource, the more there is nothing to do.
5.After that, you can draw feeling for the past year, drain on a sheet of paper and paint, all remnants of the negative and the negative feelings, emotions, sensations.
6.Draw the image of their future for next year, give yourself the ass-kicking. Record plans, goals, dreams.
7.In this adult, a positive state to decide how you will meet these holidays in a quiet company in a noisy, crowded place, which in principle is not so important, it is important that you perceive yourself after such work easy, free, confident man.
8.And most importantly, allow yourself to relax with all my heart, body and mind, consider a variety of recreation, active and passive, the maximum diversity of holidays.
in Short, your New year is in your hands, the holiday, and the entire next year!
good Luck in work!
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