the Trauma of first love is such a painful and defining our future life, like childhood traumas... maybe they are responsible for here is the sad continuation?
... the Woman sitting across from me, knows everything, knows, understands and is crying.
- I have been married for 10 years. Husband, children – I love them very much... I don't want to destroy. I don't know why I deserve this punishment, this pain...
Love is after all, only teenagers, right?
Believe me, I didn't do it. Not doing now, only I am suffering myself and torturing their loved ones.
You can hypnotize me so that I... opened my eyes and everything became still as a few months ago?
doesn't work? How how to change, to forget, not to feel?
So it should not be – to meet his gaze, hear his voice and fall in love? ...
...Not the first, Oh, not my first client, a married "Mature love", with intimacy, understanding, and respect in the family. Not the first, who finds love, finds echo in the very first, unfulfilled.
anything can happen – in love and lonely, and married. Fall in love, and 25 and 35 and 45.
Fall in love men – but they rarely come with this difficulty in reception to the psychologist. Suffer themselves trying to get out of this situation.
it is more difficult.
the Glossy magazines, popular gurus teach, say, explain what to do to "hold" the next person. "7 tips how to be the only one..", "a Ten-day training of the eternal feminine...".
Lie.
In the best case – "good faith wrong".
You can be the best, kind, considerate, loved ones can be, even the "enlightened", but...
no One is guaranteed against breakup due to the sudden surge of feelings of your partner.
Feelings – not to you, to another.
Bigots may condemn; those who have never been in love – I can shrug.
it Happens: come in for counseling a couple in which "it's complicated". When I ask about their first meeting, the mental excitement, the feeling of love and joy from the existence of each other, those who were in love, remember. They have the resource and strength to try to improve relations.
those who are "married mind", most often, there is no such resource.
Love is a dangerous but strangely alluring. And this wave of emotion might arise, not sparing the strong marriages successful, intelligent, close and firmly connected business, children, joint property...
And every time different, every time is painful.
Someone chooses an explosion of emotions, the hope that "this time" be able to achieve that amazing closeness and unconditional acceptance that was in my childhood, with my mother.
Someone chooses peace, warmth and stability.
what you already have.
Who am I to judge and rate?
I help to heal wounds, help to find his answer to life questions, was escorted into the difficult moments of life.
And I feel, feeling his skin all the "scratches" customers.
trying to understand, trying, together with their customers, then what happened: in their fourteen, fifteen, eighteen years.
that is not finished, do not finish singing. What pulls to repeat again – the feeling of love.
the Feeling of infinite adoration, joy, absolute necessity – of merging with others is so close and such a stranger.
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