With a subject of vaginismus girls are not so often turn on reception to the sexologist, therapist, or family psychologist, and try to do something themselves to solve this sexual problem as a couple.
the Most difficult is the option, when the wedding took place, and young live together, but sex is not. Especially it concerns national families, where it is customary to have many children.
I Have an appointment as a psychologist-sexologist, there was a guy who now lives in Moscow, but he himself refers to the near abroad. He wasn't just given to the Russian language, and it was attended by his cousin, who was a translator in our conversation.
What can you do, working on sexual issues, and the problem of vaginismus, when the reception man, who in absentia (in the absence of the ladies) is trying to solve this problem? - Yes, perhaps only to speak, by clarifying the point of view of the young man, examined features of behavior in pairs, and giving some recommendations. I note that the situation is quite complicated.
the Couple married about two years ago. The marriage was between close relatives. In their Diaspora, it is customary. Agreed the parents, and the children remained nothing how to obey and get married.
She grew up in Moscow, studied at the prestigious University, well-spoken in Russian. And the guy is probably not really a Muscovite, and not very advanced, something, besides, unfortunately, do not fit into a "map" of girls in terms of sexual attractiveness.
the First night she spent in the bathroom, isolating themselves from the young man. This continued periodically. She did not give herself to touch it, pulls his hand, and gave a categorical "no."
the Situation was complicated by the fact that the relatives have demanded grandchildren.
the girl refused to go to the reception. She was quite headstrong, apparently, with a complicated character, and rigidly stood his ground. When, finally, convinced her that such behavior is not good, the girl agreed to have sex, but in a variant: "you need me, take it, I will like a log"...
the guy after many attempts to have sex almost lost erection and potency, there was a syndrome of the troublesome expectation of sexual failures, and the shrew wife still occasionally scandals. Talked a little young. Apparently the conversation was not.
That's how they passed the time. Divorce is not accepted here, especially since invested a lot of money and hope in this marriage. And senior word here is law.
I was asked to come to their home. They were willing to pay a good amount. But what can you do? - It is impossible to force someone not just for sex, but to have a mandatory libido, to caress, to kiss, to love, to show some feelings, or common respect. If it is not present, and make or model this would be impossible, since there is no motivation the second side to whatsoever changes.
I talked to the girl on the phone. She said, wants nothing, will do nothing, refuses either to comment, adding: "probably, they all blamed me...."Our conversation came to nothing lead.
I think, unfortunately, it looks like a dead end. Very sorry that before marriage does not ask the opinion of the future of the bride and groom — if they agree to marry. And it turned out to be important.
In principle, there is another exit that may seem to some to be strange, but it can partly solve the problem, although quite peculiar. Known cases, when a couple is living together and not having sex, but their children are born.
Then the secret is in the ECO. As the saying goes: "a virgin can give birth." Then, perhaps, the relatives are satisfied, and the young, for whom divorce is just incredible.
what a sad story came out...
P. S. This article is fictional and real characters is irrelevant.
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