Client from Moscow it is defined as the problem state, and the difficulty in obtaining orgasm. She indicated that in addition, blocks the vaginal muscles and sexy female anorgasmia and frigidity is complemented by a vaginismus.
of Course, we can understand how difficult it is to be a girl.
If there is even a hint of vaginismus, it can be assumed that sexual concerns of the client will be associated with the transition to adulthood, and often geared for what sexual identity the client will look more as a child than an adult.
Indeed, remembering past childhood experiences when you first had sex. At that time, the girls had a lot of fears (the age of the customer from Moscow was about seventeen). Had an idea that "can't handle. If there is an orgasm, you lose control." Now we're working on these state ladies, and changed them. The customer said that now she wants to be sexy, and get the feeling that she has grown up.
She expressed her thoughts using the sentence: "I realized that sex is an integral part of life, and I want to have fun and to experience orgasm."
After that, working again on the topic of anorgasmia and frigidity, I, as a psychologist-sexologist, came to the age of the girl when she was 22. The problem was the following: I want to experience the thrill in sex, but no deep desire. I began to deal with the contradictions of my client from Moscow, and there was an image of her sexual partner. The guy was sexually inexperienced, he could not discover the girl, and did not aspire to it, taking only a personal pleasure in their primitive position (the girl's).
Now we have worked on the g-spot. There are certain techniques: what should be done to move toward vaginal orgasm. All sexologists, psychotherapists and family counselors practicing sexual therapy, know these secrets. Next, we lifted the ban to unfold, which has been associated with a strict upbringing.
I Remembered the notation my mother, who is strictly forbidden to have sex, and did not allow the girl to wear short skirts. Now we have removed the authority of the mother over the situation. Instead, added sexual desire and energy. There is a new modified image of the client in a sexy dress.
Then, came the subject: the lack of passion. The client said that she always been like this, locked her wishes. The girl often do not want to. There emerged the theme that for her everything is always decided mom. It is determined by: where to go and where to learn, then, the future place of work. All this contributed to the fact that the girl was amoebic condition, and the life she lived. as if watching from the sidelines: instructed — went made, and where your desire is not clear: "I do everything she says. Want to become independent".
Me as a family psychologist and therapist, had to work with the motivation of my client from Moscow, that she was finally able to understand that she must become the master of your life, and take responsibility for yourself, not living on orders.
during our psychotherapeutic session, we added more client passion, not only in sex but in life in General, and the activity and desires to solve their problems.
Next, came the topic that feelings do not develop. It is worth noting that often the girl is waiting for activity from the guy: he will do something, somewhere to invite, something to organize, and to come up with. But often, the activity here does not have to wait, as men often characterized by a more relaxed attitude to life. They are satisfied, and do not particularly want to show any action. Therefore, in the embodiment of my client, but should deal with the theme of the development of relations and guide them in the right direction.
Here, in fact, all of our work at this time.
P. S. This article is fictional and real characters is irrelevant.
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