This complex is widely known, but I will touch on the main points, how he reveals himself.
an inferiority Complex like other complexes, significantly distorts reality and shapes the person's unrealistic self-image. The complex makes a person feel flawed, inferior, second-rate. Man thinks that he is worth nothing and that all this never ever no one needs to know. As an escape from an intolerable sense of shame a man with such a complex use of different methods of protection, the most common of which is success, which is supposed to solve this problem. People are divided into losers and successful and we have to be among the successful, that's the idea in relation to rescue.
it Seems that this way you can avoid feelings of worthlessness, but when success is achieved, it becomes worse from the expectation that someone will expose this successful-looking person of the pretender and pathetic loser. Inferiority complex sowing doubt in the fact that the thoughts, ideas, opinions, views about human life is not correct, it loses internal support for themselves and forced to seek support in the external attributes. From this stems the dependence on other people's opinions.
Fear of losing love (and at a deeper level and life) is the basis of inferiority complex.
an inferiority Complex is formed in childhood in the first place due to the fact that the little man faced with his limitations. Limitations of body, mind, psyche, restrictions on the fulfillment of desires. He sees that he cannot do or get what others can, and often it becomes a tragedy. Especially strongly this situation is compounded by parents who present the child has very high standards and expect a lot from him. Fear not to meet the expectations of parents, disappoint them, adds strength and without painful complex.
the Negative side of the complex.
an inferiority Complex causes a person to constantly evaluate. This is how to expose themselves to the counter of the store to prospective buyers continuously evaluated the product, only the quality rating of the buyer is the carrier of the complex.
Another aspect that is extremely affecting life – the constant devaluation of people on the look of the complex is not worthy, and the idealization of people in view of the complex standing. Most often you see it in relationships, for example, in a love triangle when a partner seems not attractive, but foreign and inaccessible desirable and seductive, which can raise self-esteem.
another negative aspect of the inferiority complex is that the complex makes to constantly evolve to the detriment of that just to live and to enjoy the simple pleasures of life.
the Positive side of the complex.
It certainly is. The engine of this complex is constant development, is the ability not to stop to set new goals and achieve them, is the ability to understand the good things, the ability to develop subtle a taste for the truly beautiful, graceful, exquisite.
Direction and development of the person with an inferiority complex.
For getting rid of this complex man needs to change his attention from the outside inward to comprehensively examine and know yourself. Most effective in working with this complex is a long psychoanalysis. In the analysis worked in the following areas:
Since the characteristic feature of a person with this complex is perfectionism, need to learn how to afford to make a mistake. To relieve emotional tension.
increase contacts with other people, which gives the opportunity to see how others cope with similar problems, to learn compassion and acceptance of their own and others shortcomings. This increases the efficiency study of the complex and also due to the understanding that there is no standard of perfect man and by increasing the chance to see the uniqueness of each person.
Need to learn how to support a disabled child within yourself, to praise him, to comfort and to mirror, showing its strengths.
a Basic understanding, worth striving for and which you want to achieve is an understanding that you are no better and no worse than others, you as you are. Knowing himself, a man not afraid of mistakes, seeing them just as a life experience, change their views and beliefs without fear of destruction of self.
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