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In the speech of one's colleagues, which I listened to, was that existential therapy is more concerned with meanings, and that other therapy - feelings. But I feel it is something without which therapy cannot be. And, of course, in an existential approach to the senses is paid no less attention than the senses.

the Feelings, the theme of the senses in the focus of the seminars and workshops that I conduct. The feelings of the client and the therapist – in the heart of individual and group supervisions. Here on b17, there are a number of papers and articles on this topic. Among them: https://www.b17.ru/article/trudnosti_s_chuvstvami/

https://www.b17.ru/article/chto_pomogaet_chyvstvam_v_terapii/

But emotions, feelings tell us about opticheskom experience, and about human ontological experience – tell us about something and opticheskom and ontological language. And now I would like to draw attention to what can help the therapist of his acquaintance with the ontological experiences. For example, look at the sense of shame and even in the philosophical universal term.

According to Sartre, shame is a basic ontological emotion. Ontological emotion, because it tells us about what it means to be human. And what unites all of us, causing shame is a "being for another". Sartre in his "being for another" shame has an important place. The other we see more than we ourselves. When another sends me a look, I become the object, the purpose of his vision. And this can happen without my permission, outside of my will without my knowledge.

a Few years ago, I was at the seminar Nancy Mack Williams in Moscow. During one of the breaks, being in the hall among the many who were involved in something, lost in thought, I got the Apple and with appetite ate it. The phone rang and a colleague, which at the seminar certainly was not on the phone after "Hello" said, "Look, you're so juicy eating Apple." From the hall there was an online stream. I didn't do anything that would be morally condemned. I wasn't hiding, not hidden. But a sudden glance for a second, threw me a wave of shame, exposing my own, but unguided by me, "being for another". We experience ontological shame, when all of a sudden felt experienced their "being for another".

"Shame or pride reveal to me the gaze of another and myself as the purpose of this opinion, do not make me understand and survive the situation in question. ... I'm ashamed of who I am other" (Sartre (1)



One of my clients, being in crisis, experiencing acute your situation, talked about how unbearable he was to be out on the streets, in stores and other public places. He described sharp pain in the body from the views of people who experienced a back. He describes a very painful condition manifested his special sensitivity to shame. It is clear that the client has its own history of psychological fullness of shame. But there is something that the General and I, and he is the ontological experience of shame from the sight of me to others. At the time it was inappropriate to speak about our community, but the experience of "philosophical sympathy" (our human illness) has helped me to be with him, others in the acute as equal to: be present, not running. Not save, believing themselves to be healthy, and his patients.

Shame itself is neither good nor bad, like any feeling. Without a doubt it is always uncomfortable. In the process of therapy contact with the shame necessary. When the therapist moderate the shame and pride that is the Foundation of his position of modesty and therapeutic activity simultaneously. If there is an excess or lack of shame, may be the hubris of the therapist or reduced disadvantaged position. Both is not helpful to the therapeutic process.

it is Worth saying that no matter how aggravating the feeling may be, it is important to see the ontological component of the experience. To separate, to distinguish it from psychological. Any ontological experience says about what it means to be human. And experience this community by the therapist and the client paradoxically brings wonderful results. And trying to help the client to cope with shame, to get rid of it, it can happen "with the bathwater throw the baby out".

This article is in defense of ontological shame. In practice, to stay in the theme of "Feelings in therapy: eticheskie and ontological" face-to-face group supervision of cases in St. Petersburg. Open to groups on Mondays and Saturdays. https://www.b17.ru/trainings/sankt-peterburg_supervizii/

(1) translation of the quotes from the W-P Sartre's "Being and nothingness" Irina Gluhova

Tatiana Ivanova