In everyday life, narcissists are often treated with disdain. I often hear "my husband (wife) is such a narcissistic", loves and respects only himself!
There is the concept of "primary narcissism" which arises in the early development of each child and from it originate all other organizations of the libido. "Primary narcissism" is an intermediate phase between autoeroticism and object love. If libido for some reason doesn't find an object selection, then it is returned in the I of the subject.
"Secondary narcissism" is formed for various reasons:
1. Early loss of the object, which was directed libido, which is the cause of the loss back (subject), previously identifitsirovany with this object.
2. Early physical trauma, even if they are "good" parents care, but perceived as "bad".
3. The lack of attention and care from parental figures, or guardians.
4. Mental and physical abuse of a child, including abusee attitude.
A. green highlighted 3 aspects of narcissism:
the Moral, followed by a complete rejection of anything.
-Body, including bodily sensations and bodily representation (the perception of a complete freak or handsome).
- the Intellectual, is evident in the investment of the domination of the intellect over the body.
Depreciation as a coping mechanism, often used by a person with a narcissistic personality type. Man it's easier to demonstrate why he should abandon this. These people are frequent, but short depressive episodes, lowered self-esteem, pride, envy. It is often difficult to develop a healthy dependent relationship, for fear that they are worse than the partner and the partner is sure to figure it out and leave them.
Narcissism and its manifestations depends largely on the level of functioning of the patient. The approach to the neurotic structure of the psyche, allow man to function normally: develop a healthy dependence on a partner, to adapt to social life, to have friendships. Such narcissism is compared with a healthy selfishness. Either to the border of psychotic structure, and then we observe destructive destructive behavior, the weakness of the Super-Ego and the power of ID.
People with narcissistic personality functioning closer to the neurotic structure of the psyche, often functioning in the depressive position. And when closer to psychotic, schizo-paranoid (with M. Klein).
Pathological narcissism, is a separate issue. Many psychoanalysts and psychotherapists refuse to work with such patients as they are not able to create a dyadic relationship with the therapist, manipulation and parasitism is an integral part of the behavior of the patient. The work is aimed at development Super-Ego, but in the case of pathological narcissism, this work is not efficient.
Personal practice with patients with pathological narcissism razocharovanie many experts. Countertransference felt the attitude of these patients (man - tool for achieving), i.e. the sense of ispolzovano patient. Such patients constantly want for yourself the special relationship bonuses (lowering the price per session) as a rule, etc.
we Often mixed types of personality, but of course with the dominance of one type.