Features prepubertatne the age of 10-12 years.
psychological periodization (Elkonin), this age period is allocated as a separate stage of child development, a sort of preparation for pakostnichat.
Begin to form the background of the so-called reflection, i.e. in this period the child begins to reveal the deeper motives behind his actions, behavior, relationship to something, i.e. it increasingly opens his inner world. He begins much doubt. However, reactions are still kids, so the younger the child, often not quite understand his mood and feelings, because he is just starting to learn how to manage them. Also in this period children are gradually beginning to change body and hormones, it doesn't happen instantly, though there is such a thing as "hormonal explosion", but that would have been an explosion to him should be all set. All children have this period starts individually, someone in 9 years, someone 11, is associated with physiological, social, and personal factors. With children of this age, communication must be built a little differently than before, so, for example, it is not necessary to specify them and to demand the fulfillment of Your will just because You are a teacher, adult man and You know better with his experience. They need to negotiate, showing respect and patience to explain the reasons for Your refusal, punishment or requests. After all, it is quite a sensitive period for formation of the child trust relationship to the for adults as a friend, mentor.
Recommendations:
- avoid statements like: "I know exactly what you need." Teenagers are confident in their uniqueness and "maturity".
- ü more tolerant Attitude to some actions of the children (a new hairstyle, clothing style, Hobbies) which do not have a harm to the child and his entourage.
- avoid ambiguous statements and hints. Appeal to the teenager should contain clear information: clear ban, complete solution or the ability to make a choice.
- Speak and act with a teenager on an equal footing, i.e. with a personality that is respected and valuable. Not compete with a teenager, behaving like it, don't start to argue with him and prove his innocence. To bring the teen to the right decision, ask more questions, engage in dialogue. Want to sell – ask questions!
- Try to talk, not to lecture. Avoid statements like: "That's when I was like you..." or "You don't understand, you're still not an adult...".
- Odobriti teenager, focus on the strengths of his character. Limit comments relating to the weaknesses of character of the teenager. He knows about them and this causes him concern.
- do Not put in the labels: "You're evil, lazy, stupid, etc." Children tend to conform and to do as think of them.
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