In the modern world one of the main socio-psychological problems is the problem of teenage homelessness.
the hallmarks of homelessness are: complete cessation of communication with parents and other relatives, living in places not intended for human habitation, obtaining means of subsistence by begging and stealing.
Neglect, as a rule, pushes adolescents to antisocial behavior: substance abuse, commit offenses and crimes. These Teens drop out of school.
There is a perception that teenagers run away from dysfunctional families, where parents abuse alcohol, but it is not so. In the last decade significantly increased the number of teenage runaways from ordinary families where parents do not use psychoactive substances, provide their children with everything necessary and even more than a seemingly care about them.
the Task of prevention of adolescent neglect rests primarily with the parents. Adolescence is a critical period of development, so parents need to be attentive and patient towards his younger child.
parents Have always been too busy – this is required by modern high-speed pace of life - work, household chores. And so it turns out that very often the most important, communication with your child, don't have the time. A teenager may feel unnecessary. Try every day to allocate at least half an hour to communicate with the child, ask how his day was, tell him about his work, about his childhood, adolescence. Perhaps the teenager in the family plans, give him a choice, for example, where to go in the summer to relax. Then Your child will feel a part of the family.
In some families found the opposite trend – Hyper. Parents try to control every step of a teenager, a strict control of daily routine, school performance, his circle of communication. All this leads to a buildup of emotional stress in adolescents, which may result in a protest. Try to give your child more independence, create a private space where he can some time to be alone, gently ask on his progress in school, do not scold, do not criticize, but do whatever you can. Lay your child simple duties, such as walking the dog in the evenings.
Before you punish a teenager for some kind of misconduct should carefully consider whether adequate punishment for the misconduct. Avoid corporal punishment, humiliating the personal dignity of a teenager. Unfair punishment lead to aggression and protest.
Always communicate with your child from a position of "equal" respect his feelings, show him that You love him.
Never lie to your child. For example, if you promised him to buy something after the end of the school year, be sure to perform your promise, otherwise the child will Harbor resentment.
If between parents there are disagreements, the child in any case should not be present. Quarrel parents traumatized teen. Try to adjust Your relationship when the child is not around.
One of the most traumatic factors for the child is parental divorce. If this happened to Your family, you must remember that divorcing mom and dad, but not the parents with the child. Both parents should continue to participate in the upbringing of the child. Do not ignore the experiences of the child, talk to him about his feelings, tell us that You, too, can be difficult. In any case, don't judge when you and your former spouse.
When you divorce, the child usually continues to live with mother. If mom getting remarried, the child may begin to be jealous of her new husband. In this situation, the mother should pay more attention to your child, often hug him and say that she loves him. In any case we cannot allow the stepfather abused the child.
If the family a baby is born, the younger child may feel unwanted and abandoned. Explain to your teenager that You love them both equally, just a little more can do nothing in himself, therefore needs constant care. Allow the senior to take the kid on hands, to play with him. Every day take the time that You spend just the two of us with the older. Thereby you will give your teenager to understand that he to You has the same value as a baby.
Finally, the reason for the departure of the teenager of the house may be banal boredom and a desire for new experiences. Try to make the child's leisure time is not confined to school lessons. Give him the opportunity to attend clubs, cinema, theatre, to communicate with friends.
Observing the above recommendations and tolerable treated your child, You will be able not only to keep him from running away from home, but also to help him grow into a happy person.
First published:
the Newspaper "Pulse Ivanteevka"
October 21, 2015, No. 74 (3095)
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