the advice came a girl, 26 years old. The request could not articulate, the only thing that could say about their needs - "you only live once is wrong." Thinking, she found that in her life there is a need for new places (travelling), meeting new people, changing jobs and however, all of these potential events cause her great fear. In life it was as follows: as soon as she left or entered a new relationship with a man that had the fear grew and then she returned to the bosom of the parent family, lived there for a while, recovering emotionally, and then again began to change. She voiced her fatigue from this "vicious circle", the fear of not being able to get married, to graduate, to see the world and so on.
we had developed a trusting, warm relationship, there was a contact, and she "remembered" one case from my childhood (few people told me) and decided to share. When she was 8 years old, she and her family (mom, dad and younger brother) went on a journey by train. During the trip they had to change at some station, they had to wait some time until the rosters will not change. Since she was a child was a very curious girl, she decided to spend that time usefully. Since the station was a hub, there was a large number of stalls and shops with toys, sweets, very interesting things. She saw them and went farther from the place where the parents brother, waiting. She went "very far" (subjective feeling) and noticed the unfamiliar man who approached her, began to ask about something, took her hand and led her farther away from parents (she remembered the feeling of unaccountable dread, intense fear that paralyzed her and forced to go on about this man). In this moment there was her father, who asked the man what he was doing, said he was her father and saved her from this meeting.
I asked her to think about what conclusions she has made from this case, which type of installation carried into adulthood. And she realized that installation was the following "the farther away from parents, more dangerous. my love for new experiences, maybe to kill me". Hence the fears of change and a strong need to return to the parent nest. After the memories we had another meeting, during which we had a dialogue with inner child, held dis-identification of the event with real life, made up the situation. She doesn't come, and I am grateful for this meeting and the experience through which I have structured our work with childhood memories.
They must be aged 3 to 12 years (the most the influence of the stage of identity formation) can be characterized by different strong emotions (fear, anger) or ambivalent feelings. We describe these cases, as specifically as possible and accurately remember and analyze what is learned from this children case, the customer. Typically, these "kids" kind of machine is best run by grown-up child life.
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