the Line of human behavior, which is formed by a child up to 5 years to adjust perhaps, but hard enough.
As there is this program. In conflicts of parents or bad emotional condition of one of them scrambles to fix the situation in the direction of improvement. The instinct of survival drives. Therefore, stick to their parents when they are in an irritable condition, or any other negative. Magic thinking children leaves them, coupled with the survival instinct of choice. It prevents the child to sleep. Categorical requirement raising your voice only exacerbates the child's condition. Entering into a state of anxiety and self-reproach.
to Stop this behavior just. Suffice it to say the phrase I love you and what I feel now not because of you, and beyond any reason of their choice, the source of which cannot be a child. For example, work, trouble, uncle trod on his leg, thumb hurt and so on. But it changes a situational cause, but does not remove the actual installation on the sacrificial behavior and Outlook.
the Child anything for the affluent status of the parents. And the price doesn't matter. The more to five years, the fear of death not linked to his final life. This simple action, a simple action, to sacrifice himself if only parents were there, and so all actions are appropriate. Because without parents, he simply will not survive.
it Seems simple, the mechanism is clear and understandable. And works the same way as adults, forcing us to endure, to adapt, to the detriment and in favor of a significant person. For whatever reason, it mattered. Important a person becomes in one number with parents quite often, and the actions and behavior of the move from the conscious level to the unconscious level. Actions brought to automatism. Just when these actions are allowed to survive, and critical to a sufficient extent has not yet been formed. And then, on the advice of the man says that he does not understand why he is in such interpersonal relations. This applies to the work, and partner. And the saddest thing is even against children. As soon as the child becomes older than 5 years (usually 7-8 years) this projection can be transferred to the child from the parent. And then the inner child( 5 years old) an adult who has already formed a worldview, moreover, reinforced by life experience, under. And this is one of the reasons permissive parental behavior to children and in the future is extremely disrespectful attitudes on the part of the child.
adult's Experience confirms the choice of the child's behavior in different situations, formed up to 5 years.For example, injured or rejected devotional starting at 7 years, the child, and then as they grow older teenager, and then adult, repeatedly gets into situations when it is rejected or betrayed. Is suffering from this. But the injury requires ugiwania. And so these situations will be repeated until the person can handle it, moving from the unconscious to the conscious level and abandoning such attitudes or will enter into such interpersonal relationships bringing yourself to a state of complete helplessness caused by exhaustion both mental and physical. And even then, not having the strength to continue this line or asks for help, or tears of these interpersonal relationships in rehabilitation.
And so, the child has an inner desire to sacrifice himself for the sake of a prosperous state significant person (a parent). The behavior formed. You cannot change the past. You can change the attitude to the situation and the person in communication with which it is formed. Here everyone has their own methods. But one task, to persuade the (inner) child, seek help, change installation of self-sacrifice for the significant person, in a man's body, to care for myself.
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