Our life is replete with different kinds of emotions and feelings: resentments, fears, anger, sadness on one side of the pole, joy, gratitude, love, on the other. They are called conditionally negative and positive. However, this is conditional division. A person can use anger with the aim to get rid of feelings of self-pity and achieve a long-held dream. And premature joy, the commander, can result in failure in the entire war. is Important not only and not so much the emotion, but what is its purpose and what results it will bring.
We used to think that emotions arise as if by themselves. However, you may have noticed that different people react to the same situation differently. It is logical to assume that the reaction depends on the person, not the situation, but rather by the desires - conscious or not, is not important.
Feeling self-pity, for example, we expected sympathy. When offended, we wish the one we recorded in the "offenders" took the responsibility for our troubles, domestic discomfort.
self-Pity and resentment have in common, these emotions encourage others to act in your best interests. It is the emotions of a person in a position "Sacrifice". The "victim" believes that the events happen to her, not she generates events. The "Victims" are always the offenders, and life in relation to her unfair. In contrast to the position of "Victims" there's another one – Creator. The Creator is aware that he creates his reality. He is not waiting until others are served to him on a silver platter what he wants, and will not be indignant snort, say "not", as does the "Victim". He will bring to life your desire.
"the Creator" is aware that the responsibility for his actions and reactions upon it. The Creator comes from the position "I can do that?" instead of "Why is everything wrong?".
Person who establishes his life, would prefer to stay in a positive mood.
And really, with a smile on my face live is so much more pleasant. Smiling, we experience joy. Rejoicing, notice all the good things and evaluate any events positively. "the bowl is broken? Is to be happy."
Focusing on the positive, if we take the bright paint, which create a delightful picture of her life. After all, it is not so much what happens but how we relate to it – we choose to be happy "Creators" or unfortunate "Victims". Note that it's your choice!
How to become a happy Creator, if we used to live thinking that nothing depends on us, even our own emotions?
I Propose to start with monitor your reactions, to examine why you react one way or another, what need lies behind a particular emotion and subsequent actions and words.
If you complain to get sympathy, you may just like the attention. Think about how you can satisfy your need otherwiseon their own. Perhaps in the above example, you should offer interesting conversation with your interlocutor, who will carry you both, or a joint affair. This will allow you to satisfy a need for attention, and give his attention to another, and get a lot of positive emotions.
so you've learned how to identify their wants and needs and meet them without any manipulation on their own.
the Next step on the path to becoming the Creator of your own life will be the ability to smile in any situation. This refers to the ability to see in all the reason to smile. Ask yourself the question: "What good can I learn from this?", then any trouble will be for you a pleasant opportunity, a gift.
And finally: change of consumer attitude to life with the creative. Instead seek the source of joy in others, themselves become the source, let's and give. Believe me, it's very nice.
Gradually, by following these recommendations, you will be able to change the shame and resentment to joy and love. You will no longer require and begin to give. And your life will be what you want it to be.
good luck to you in the ways of God's own life.
Your personal guide through the vast expanses of the soul, Faith sh
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