Упражнение "Моё место под солнцем" о сиблингах.

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the Siblings. Blood brothers and sisters, a summary of foster children.

In this exercise we will explore how the relationship between children brought up in foster families, depending on their birth order in the best families, and joining the family that already has children, or provide for parents in the future, as vested, and adopted.

A. Adler describes the theory that birth order of children in the family affects the formation of his personality, character traits and further has an impact on his life.
I will Not go into a description of the characteristics of senior/Junior/middle/ only children, as it is on the Internet in sufficient quantity.
Just take it as a basis.

Exercise: "place the child under the sun."

Objective: to detect the main characteristics of children depending on their birth order in the family and the changes that occur with them in this view, by moving them in institutions or in foster families.

Objectives: to give participants the opportunity to analyze your childhood experiences and live like the feelings of children who move into institutions or foster homes.

Participants: group of 6-8 people, the candidates for adoptive parents/foster parents held who are considering the adoption of new children into the family/ specialists of family devices, including experts of bodies of guardianship.

instruction:
1. Participants are encouraged to work in groups, according to the order of his birth. Discuss the pros and cons of their position in the family. To focus participants on what the relations were with adults and children and how was formed the following aspects:

- Responsibility
- Trust
- Socializing
- Control
Responsibilities
Personal space
- Idle
- Duties
- Jealousy
- etc.

2. After discussion in groups it is necessary that his thoughts and insights, shared senior/ Junior/ middle/ and the only "children". Make conclusions. Write down the characteristics of each group.


3. Now ask participants to fantasize about the ideal brother or sister. Often in the group heard the phrase: "I would like younger sister" or "older brother", and possibly "did not want to, I don't need anyone". Unleash their fantasies, and allow me to present any option which they themselves desire. Ask participants to describe themselves on a piece of paper this way, without talking out loud. It is important that they are presented , how they strive to perfect "one's sibling" interact and what is expected from him in his address. Ask them to specify.


4. Calculate participants on 1-3 or 1-4, depending on number of people, so as to obtain groups of 3-5 people. Call them "families". Tell children that they are now in foster care. Invite them to agree among themselves how they will live together, and ask them to build the hierarchy in a child's subsystem. Remind the participants that they had certain expectations (fantasy) of a perfect brother or sister, and now they were given a great opportunity to get what you want. Ask participants to pay attention to their feelings. Their task is to find their place in this system, keeping your personal experiences and birth order is not changed.


5. In one of the groups, you can assign some of the children in the "family" blood child, and to see how relations develop, and how they will differ from a family where all adopted.


6. In another group, you can introduce the children in turn, but not in accordance with their age or birth order. Challenges remain the same. To analyze the similarities and differences between what is happening in this and other groups.
In my opinion, the last two variations can be used as needed if, for example, in the group understands the specific situation.
In other cases, it can overload and so intense exercise.
In principle, the information that the participants receive and give in the first embodiment, when all the children and foster family came at the same time, redundant.

7. After "children" in families agreed to return them to the common circle to ask everyone, and invite them to discuss the following points:
- the First reaction they had at the time of their unification in families
- How they feel now.
if you Managed to agree with others
- took a more advantageous position than expected
- whether brothers and sisters in this family their expectations (ideal image)
- What feelings they experience in relation to other "children" in the resulting family.
- How will relations develop between them
- Who will be the problem child in the family
- what are the difficulties faced by adoptive parents?

as a result of the exercise becomes obvious as for adoptive parents, and for professionals, how important it is to carefully consider the selection of the child in the family, depending on birth order, consider how many children were in his blood family and what is the number of children in the waiting room.

Matrosov Elizabeth

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