What do you use exercises which experiment, if you work with a couple?
And if you were in therapy, then maybe you have something memorable and useful?
Let's share with each other!
I sometimes use the following exercise( it prompted me Daniel Khlomov, for which he again expressed thanks to):
you Can offer a pair to take turns to ask each other questions:
- That you're hiding from me?
How are you manipulating me?
What I would like to get from you?
- What can I give you?
First, one asks questions and listens to answers ,and then the other does the same. It is better to answer immediately, without hesitation, I thought so effectively.
for Example, someone says that does not hide anything and did not manipulate. It is already possible to draw conclusions about some insincerity (and the therapist and second half). This, in turn, may be the subject of discussion, or conclusions of some. Well, if sincerely said something to each other, and it is good, as it is clear that there is sincerity. Another thing that kind of recognition. But this is already a reason to discuss something. This discussion, in turn, be based on sincerity, so there's a chance that it will be possible to figure something out about something to negotiate.
Also, probably, maybe a few cheerleaders, cause the questions are the answers to last two questions, like: "I don't want you to, it's already getting", "give all you can". Agree that there is something to talk about, as well as in the first two cases above. It turns out that you can't ask for something, it also came reason for therapy, this means that not everyone is comfortable with? Doesn't want to do something for a partner, to normalize relations? This is not because the other suppresses it, denies part of its offer? Etc. it is important to look at the situation, what is clear about the interaction of the pair.
Exercise and therapeutic, as it helps to run some processes in couples therapy, and diagnostics.
Now he hesitated, not really the last two questions. Will have to look into their records and then, if anything, will write the correct options in the comments. But I think that's all true.
And I myself am just on the computer for A4 format made blank with the questions, divide the list into four parts with each part writing to one of the four questions. Then printed, cut the sheet into four parts that each paper had one question accordingly, and laid the pile to the top was the first question, and give one to each pair in your kit when doing the exercise to people just leaves turns reading the questions and ask them to each other.
Interesting can be discussion!
I Recommend when the opportunity to try to apply at work! I'll need to think about it, we even together, can this exercise perform pair healthy. Probably possible if a constructive dialogue is possible if there is an opportunity to discuss and want to understand each other.
Waiting for your comments! Thank you!
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