the Person behaves in the family, what is its socio-cultural environment, which includes itself and its immediate surroundings. It in the first place, asks him certain behaviors and types of relationships that can be positively directed to the family development and negative, destroying it.
Original in understanding the behavior of people in the family are the representation of him that represents his elect, his entourage and his relatives, i.e. those people with whom he will live or often enough to communicate, including as necessary. Accordingly, he gradually formed an image not only of the elect, but also his future family. These images he relates with his own "I" - way, which reflected his beliefs about yourself, about the strengths of self and those traits that he would like to hide and disguise. Here we can take his expectations and fears, which he feels at the beginning of the creation of a family, desires and aspirations, perceptions of their capabilities, risks, ability to use "bring to mind" the first successfully to overcome the other.
That will give him his elect and the family as a whole? What will he give them? If the image chosen, its environment, their future family and "I" combined in his consciousness, his behavior in the family will wear adaptive nature. If these images are not aligned, then his behavior and family relationships, will likely accept non-adaptive, opportunistic, or outright controversial.
the Image of the family and its environment in terms of the subjective begin to form with representations about what is a family man, as well as what should be the socio-cultural environment of such a person, including social norms and values, ethical views and social evaluation and expectations, patterns of behavior, levels of consumer and business education education, social and psychological background of seed relations, creative atmosphere, the competence of the family member in dealing with certain family problems, individual communication styles, parenting, family leadership etc.
the Family man or the man family, it is important to know what socio-cultural and socio-psychological patterns of behavior will ask him family, solving the alternative: "the Person to family or family to a person?". In the first case, his family environment is an important artist, a kind of family functionary (for women – "kitchen, children, Church, for the husband is the breadwinner and the "Golden hands"), the second – the Creator, the initiator, the initiator of the majority of family Affairs and traditions. It depends on the understanding of their own behavior, which for the human family grows into a real personal problem and drama: "I tied (a) family ties, to live, or I live to have those family ties to support? And anyway, why do I need family?".
Select four types (we do not exclude that there may be more) representations (stereotypes) about the family, about what it is:
- the"prudent man," i.e. one focused primarily on profit, on obtaining from the creation of the family of any subsequent benefits, whether it be wealth, a promotion, a new startup business, etc.;
- "man function", ie a functional appendage to family life: she meets her husband, is busy with the housework, works with children, he earns money, repair, make whole men's work, takes the most important decisions (or, on the contrary, she does);
- "man-loving", i.e. family and marriage focusing on their experiences, emotional States, which very powerfully affect the psycho-emotional background in the family, psychological atmosphere, the comfort of its existence.
- "moral person", i.e. evaluating everything that happens in the family events from the point of view of moral-ethical ideas about it, "what should be the ideal family."
These stereotypes and are the most important guidelines for people creating a family and marriage. Interestingly, in a particular ratio they occur in the consciousness of each person seeking to create a family. Which of these stereotypes are predominant in the minds of each family member depends on his behavior in General and in specific situations.
In Fig. shows a model of a refraction of the stereotypes about the family in the mind of a typical young man:
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