People who care about us, rarely do it as well as we would like, but I can't complain it so much.
Paolo Giordano. Black and silver
Care, which is directly connected to the themes of the features of our close relationship with someone, love to someone or love someone to us.
A of us need waiting for her feel the lack of.
indeed, first question, the first pain, which worries a lot: "why of me don't care", "I feel bad, I don't have enough concern", "my favorite people rarely take care of me" etc.
basically, all speak about it, ask questions in that direction.
Indeed, it is easier to expect something from the other. Worry about the fact that you're not getting something from their loved one. To suffer, to be angry, offended, feel slighted, even deprived of...
Constructive context - that is the question?
- That for yourself real concern?
- do You Know how to show it from time to time? How often do You do it? Doing it at all?
- whether Your understanding of the concern with the idea of this from Your partner?
- do You have installation on what You are willing to take care only when they get something from a partner, some kind of a response?
- How much You and Your status/mood, dependent on Your expectations of the care from the partner?
that I asked at the consultation, when I come with similar complaints.
These questions help clarify a lot. Your expectations, your attitudes that dominate in a relationship, your own “white” zone and spaces.
You can decide for yourself clarify. Especially well it turns out if record all answers, and then you read them carefully. Many things you learn about yourself. Unusual and amazing.
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