Many are accustomed to treat ourselves as those who achieve the desired, applying force. The result, saying "the result", is "voltage". It looks like a psychological profile of a responsible and reliable person.
And the reason to contact a doctor in this case, it is often something that looks out of control. I want to regain control over itself and over what happens in life. After all, this feeling of "I have everything under control" keeps the self-esteem.
That is, the person feels that he is losing control, that control is not enough, while in the system on the contrary, an excess of control, this method just stops working. Ceases to lead to the usual result. Another way to achieve what you want, but to strengthen supervision is not, so it causes panic. And supports the hope that you just have to do better. Even more strain. To find someone who will tell you how to effectively control.
This is very common bunch of achievements with effort and control. Because of willpower and control is a really important part of this process. But there is another part of any way of life, is more important. And this part is associated with enjoyment or pleasure.
In fuel all the time one is fun, just have different ways of having fun. In places the path to the goal, where the pleasure is not available at the moment, there is a need to use will power and control. This is also a way to have fun, but indirectly, as a result. The feeling of those who coped with a difficult problem who did not give up.
So if you think you're losing control, it is also important to explore what place in my life is fun? It allowed me to enjoy life?
Can I say "my life is a process" and to provide "fun"? How much fun I can experience in my life so this is nothing "straight"? Could it be the background of my life, or is this the rare "gingerbread" on the road, hung with "whips"?
Is the pleasure of life – my value? Or is something dangerous that could ruin everything? Because of the pleasure you can lose your mind, it can drown, it can destroy your life and ignore this.
What are the options of fun, I know and use? What are the options for enjoyment to be banned?
You can assume that a good attitude to pleasure and want pleasure, just it has to be feasible. Functional (neat and tidy). The pleasure should serve the purpose, otherwise, should stop and to stop doing it.
Such a life is not only poor for the pleasure, but also full of anxiety, as if not to indulge in "empty" pleasure. There should always be an excuse as to why I now get a buzz.
Check that the image of a good, reliable person is the result of a rejection of the huge piece of cake pleasure is there in life.
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