Учимся говорить, когда говорить вроде и не о чем.

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As the saying goes, silence can be Golden, and then attaches great importance to non-verbal signs. But in modern tradition, the dominant role still belongs to verbal communication. And if, during a conversation, formed a protracted pause, you can feel the awkwardness. This usually occurs with the first intercourse, which did not bind, which see each other for the first time, not very familiar, and trite, worried.

And of course, first of all, it concerns the meeting date.



in order to break the silence, don't need any flimsy threads is the easiest. And in the process you will be able to find some relevant source for your topic and continue to control the conversation in its sole discretion.

I Remember I once crossed paths with the unknown man who warned that he is free, literally for 20 minutes. In the end, chatted about nothing for about 2 hours and he still drove the car to my house that clearly was not in his plans.

So what are we talking about?

of Course, the simplest beginning, it's about the weather, the more that there was a strong frost. Frost - to the subject of hot tea, which prefers, as making. Then about Pets. He had a dog, and I'm a cat lady. Then I told a story from his childhood about a shepherd who lived with his grandmother in the house, and he has some stories about his dog papacharissi about how hard it is to lose their four-legged friends. Then I went to talk about the parks (both work in the center, where with this problem), about cars, about children, about work, about new year corporate, about spring, about bikes...I just tried, in the course of conversation, to catch the emotional response of the interviewee changed the topic and if it was not.

As you can see, nothing complicated. And in fact, ask: "So what were you talking about?", "Nothing special, everything in moderation".

And from this conversation "about nothing", from which words and stories used by your interlocutor, you can get a very real idea.

of Course, talking about the weather, weather forecasts, global warming and migration of fur seals, this is the only way to avoid awkward pauses and the ability to find something that is a kind of emotional or informational value to your partner.

Your task is to focus not on the information itself, and the pleasure of conversation, then it will flow easily and naturally.





Examples of topics of conversation

  • On the way to a meeting, on the radio in the car you heard some news or something interesting for you. Share this.
  • Generic the, to which you can smoothly go from talking about the weather Last time, the weather is so unpredictable and go somewhere for the sun and warmth, it is easy to run into the rain, and even snow, right? What are your plans for the next vacation, where would you like to go?
  • you Can mention that you reading now or intend to read and why.do you remember the first book that you read? I have had this book about my grandfather mazaj and hares. Mazai there helps hares, with the sunken island of land, to move to safe land on his boat. I grew up and chose too help the profession. I wonder it has something to do? What do you think about this?
  • If you don't know what to say for yourself, ask, ask interlocutor for anyone who came to mind the question, Yes, even about the upcoming election. You go to vote? Already know for whom? What guided it?
  • Great to recall some children's adventure, the feeling of childhood by some event. You also think that the older we get, the faster time flows?
  • With some people it is possible to discuss some of the secular news. Saw a poster that was then will be a concert/performance/match. Are you interested in this? I watched/visited from last?
  • If there is a pause in the conversation, pay attention to what surrounds you, to what is happening around. in the Park Today surprisingly a lot of people. You come here often? What do you like here? And I like this place (café, restaurant), it is very cozy and comfortable lighting. Do you have a favorite cozy place?
  • you discuss food preferences each other.
  • During intercourse use the received knowledge about the person and select something it positive. s so interesting tell, you seem in this question are well versed. Can I contact you for advice about this, if there is such a need?
  • Often in public places sound music and is a wonderful cause for the discussion of the musical tastes of each.
  • about leisure activities, sports Hobbies, hobby would be appropriate. How do you usually spend your weekend? do you Know how to ride a bike? What was your first bike? In my childhood my parents often took us into the forest to pick mushrooms and berries.Ts like to go out in the woods for mushrooms?
  • Discuss about current events what is happening in your city or the world, you should only choose a positive theme.
  • Talk about what gives you the greatest pleasure.
  • Ask, did your friend to do something unusual, to be a part of something extraordinary.



As you can see, to find, something to talk about with a stranger is not so difficult.

All these questions can be asked at any point in the conversation, and by the way. And from the responses you can get an idea about the person. Sometimes one question is the beginning of meaningful communication: favorite animals, favorite movie or book, favorite sports team, favorite musical group "the lark" or "owl", the Altai Republic or Turkey....

the List of topics has no limits, it is endless.

One of the theme should easily flow into the other, and they, in turn, create a new one.

If you are not distracted from the person, you will always find what to answer him and ask a question that requires a detailed answer.

it is not Desirable to stay on the subject about which you may strongly disagree.

And whatever the subject, your task is to give the person supportive environment and to give him the opportunity to open up.

enjoy your communication!

Kirsanova Irina

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