In a fairy tale is usually written: Prince loved a Princess with all my heart, they played a big wedding and soon they had a beautiful daughter. The picture is wonderful... But sometimes the birth of a child and going on maternity leave is a way to escape, it is lightweight and known track in opposition to fear and uncertainty.
Examples of evasion in the decree:
- so tired, the staff don't like it, but unemployed and can not be. Exit - to leave on maternity leave, allowing myself not to work in this field/with this boss/in the team;
- the time of exit of the decree, the uncertainty and fear of going to work (or to let go of a favorite child). And the second decree soothes, gives stability. Like hard/tired/ routine in the decree, but as usual in the shell-house.
the Situation may be quite aware - go for unloved work before the release of the decree, because of good payment and conditions. And unconscious - "accidentally" got pregnant and so there were circumstances.
When a person tries to escape from himself by changing anything in real life - it ends in success, not so much. For example, the birth of a child in itself is a joyful event, but there is the hassle, limitations and level of responsibility. Fled to decree the woman is getting worse, the problems accumulate. Therefore, the escape from itself ends very often the fact that a few years people lost - and the problems at the new place, he'd have the same. Because the problems in it.
Yet with them you will not understand nothing outside will not change fundamentally.
Well, when a woman listens to himself. Feels fear of the unknown, to be incompetent in the profession, to build new social relationships of responsibility... And their lives, find solutions and ways out of the situation. Getting away is about temporary protection, but not a solution to the problem.
Trying to be everything, do everything and become "super-human" leads to inevitable exhaustion and despair. You can't keep your feelings and wishes always and you cannot always expect success and achievement. Life brings its UPS and downs, and sometimes a road to nowhere, go and start all over again – all the normal components of the human being.And let the children born in love and in joy!
did You runaway on maternity leave? What can you recommend for a woman in this case? Write your opinion in the comments.
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