now, many psychologists are taken for the theme "to improve the self-esteem" I mean, as if somehow... And low self - esteem is generally how? As I can assess themselves and relative to what? Because everything is known in comparison and contrasted. Relative to what criteria ? Comparing myself something? Yourself to yourself? That is before I had high self esteem, and now suddenly... fell? Or maybe you about this someone said, well, the same psychologists, commending you through. And you can do it somewhere heard, suddenly finding in himself the root of "all evil"? But how is this? What is the mental mechanism?
there is No such psychological insight... there is No such definition – self-esteem. Because if we talk about the mechanism, its characteristics, the status of the self-assessment will be closer to manic depressive psychosis, when the patient is at the stage of mania, feels brilliant, the greatest, the Almighty, I mean God. And in the stage of depression, feels his own insignificance, powerlessness, coming to despair, somehow sensing something of their own inferiority, well, that is the imperfection, postado..., lack of. But he remembers that recently, the Almighty was. This is the experience "suddenly a shattered self-esteem"! But, even in this example, greatly misled cause and effect. Even in this so-called "self-esteem", that is, the condition, experience, feeling any – is not the cause, as is the result. And not a consequence of thinking, i.e., that lives you in mind; by the way, the idea is generally the tool of desire, and not more so; and not even that pushed out of him, that is preconscious, where under the granite gravestones lie some memories, status, etc., are not compatible with your life; and the reason lies in your unconscious. That is, the root is that your self-esteem does not can neither be nor become. It only occasionally breaks through indestructible, in a normal state of mind, protection - outside seeped into his consciousness, a vague alarm.
moreover, if you take away from the social pie, the filling of the psychologists saying that they are the connecting part between the individual and society; that man is not evaluate what he thinks about himself, and not by how he feels and because he manifests himself among other people. That is what he does. And, making it, i.e., judge - give their opinion about it, by their actions... right or not – only other people. So what kind of self-assessment can be discussed? You also judge yourself by your actions? Here this my act is good, but the bad. And for whom good or bad? For you or for another person? So there are already other feelings, for example shame, resentment or guilt. And what is bad or good? And what is right? We are not doing this, as this is a separate issue, and I often have to read the accusations in his side, associated with a large number of letters I use in reasoning. There is no such thing self-esteem, and there is a feeling of hurt dignity. Or unconscious feelings of inability to achieve the desired.
Thus, to "your self" did not fall into someone's eyes, on the one hand, it is necessary to maintain their dignity, and with another – to understand themselves and to realize their desire to an opportunity, they are properly implemented.
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