I read a lot of psychological literature, so now I can't name the author from whom I took for this model.
I really like It, as it gives the opportunity to perform with clients where the main source of disagreement.
According to this model family is a multilevel, complex system.
(so sketch)
the First level is the relationship of the roles, male - female
What's included?
Love, tenderness, care, support, mutual respect, admiration, romance, sex ...
the Second level - the relationship of the roles the host and hostess.
it deals with all economic problems. The distribution of responsibilities at home, material support...
the Third level is the relationship of the roles mom and dad
This level is formed by increasing the family - the firstborn.
Often with the appearance of this level is the first crisis in relations.
In life there are many changes - new responsibilities. What should the mom and dad. Who has what rights?
the Fourth level is the relationship of the roles of personality identity.
Despite the fact that a man and a woman formalized their relationship as a family, they were individuals with their own interests, needs, passions, desires for professional growth.
the Fifth level - the relationship of the roles the children of their parents.
Here, too, there are often problems.
Each couple brings to the relationship what he saw and what was used in their parental home. At this level focuses on the customs, attitudes, beliefs of each partner.
why do we need these levels and how can they help?
including work with couples, I see that often the problem is that the needs of each are on different levels.
for Example one of it needs of the first level - not enough affection, tenderness, romance.
the second basic needs at the second level. Concerned only with the material side of the relationship.
And if a couple has problems at one level, it is easier to focus on that.
for Example, do not find understanding in relation to parental families.
What do you suggest?
are Invited to explore and choose from each family those traditions and values that will help them to strengthen their relationship.
in Other words - depending on the level at which there are contradictions, selected method of working.
As always ready to answer your questions.
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Photos for illustrations taken from the Internet.
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