Yet some 20-30 years ago the majority of children in our country were left to themselves. Parents were too busy making money, survival in the collapsing country.
Children with virtually no wrangling, went to school, most will themselves carry out the lessons, worked in clubs (usually those that chose themselves, and not mom and dad), talked a lot and spent their free time as they please.
Today we are seeing a trend where the parents almost all my free time is spent filling the leisure time of the child. Educational classes almost from birth, English, school preparation, dancing, drawing, and then programming and robotics (for boys) and the model school (for girls) etc. doing homework together almost until 7th grade, when the native child and completely shifts the responsibility on parents and refuses to go to school.
previously, this style of upbringing was characteristic of the representatives of the higher class of society, now it has become a norm. The exception are Junior high school students, perform their own lessons and have a degree of autonomy.
Sociologists attribute the increased anxiety of parents for their children's future (and hence care) with economic instability in the society. Increased parental control and children's dependency, growing up postponed indefinitely.
Parental anxiety, exhaustion and stress are manifested in excessive expectations on children about their abilities and fear of failure. And because mistakes and failures are a natural part of our life, health, this approach does not add either the parents or the children.
If you want your child engaged in a particular activity, ask yourself: whose needs you satisfy. Your child's or your own? Children are our best teachers. Learn to trust their choice and dream. Accepting this reality, parents reduce the tension in the relationship and children feel more freely.
We may change your approach to education, because our children deserve the best!
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