it's Amazing how much many people are determined to fight with him. With the disease, they believe, will certainly need to fight, to wage war. From unpleasant emotions, at whatever cost, to get rid of. Unpleasant sensations in the body - certainly to escape. Well, and so on.
I really like this integrative approach to the person, which involves understanding the meaning of all that happens inside us and with us, phenomena. It is clear that when we have something hurts, a little pain medication. You also need to find out surely the source of pain. Because pain is, in fact, external alarm the body about some internal problem. When Cassano case of problems psychological, mental plan, the same neuroses, for some reason, this semantic approach many people forget. And continue to fight with vneshnimi manifestations. But our problems, our neroz, our experiences - is also a part of us. And, by fighting them, we actually fight with ourselves. And in the struggle with himself, as you know, losers are known in advance.
Much greater therapeutic effect can be achieved if you accept your illness, your problem, as it is. Even with gratitude - because it is, in fact, teaches us something. Many people who are far from psychology themselves feel it intuitively and apply it in practice. So, the grandmother of one of my friend when she was having some chronic pain (often typical for advanced age), before going to sleep, he lay in bed, literally talking to the sick parts of the body, reassured them, begged to release her from suffering. And the next morning the pain passed. Training weight loss I within a certain time very often, I suggest to people lovingly relate to such, you know, chronic the folds of fat, of which fat all did not leave. I asked them to literally fall in love with this part of my body until they well, just hated. Over time, these parts of the body strolli. For many, this will sound weird, but it really works.
Now to my therapy walks a girl with a severe form of obsessive-compulsive disorder ( obessive-compulsive disorder in modern formulation). Prior to that, she had a lot of instances and to different specialists and her condition continued to deteriorate. It got to the point that the obsessions began to interfere with her even to leave their homes. Some time psychotherapy not yielded much fruit. And then I decided to try it in the TRANS to work with the unconscious part of the personality that is responsible for these obsessions. In a literal sense, in trance, we are using a special system of signals engaged in a dialogue with this part of the personality. In a very respectful and loving manner. And, moreover, that this part of the personality started to answer, she still agreed to reconsider its purpose, its manifestation. In the end, just a few sessions we were able to achieve such progress was not achieved in the previous four to five years. Don't know what will happen next, but the connection is obvious. When you respect the deep meaning, which carries with it any problem, you can achieve much better results than continuing to blindly fight her.
Imagine you came home and your child during your absence, I decided to do the mopping. And, as is often the case with children, the harm from this washing was much more than good. Left stains, dirty spots.. You will be a child is to blame? Here, a reasonable parent this child even praise. For what? For creative, useful efforts. So the child was left to continue the desire to do something good. And after the praise can help a child better learn it good to do more skillfully.
the point is that within each of us can live here the same child, who sometimes tries to do something good, but chooses not the methods. br>
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