Almost 20 years ago, when I started my path into the profession, it seemed to me that psychological knowledge is a panacea. All the polls just have to go to therapy to solve their problems and become happy.
psychologists Familiar with the name and experience I thought I was super human. In my 20s I was sure that they are not just helping others, but also themselves 100% happy with my life. Their families always peace and quiet, they don't change, and they are not disappointed in the loved ones. Even if they find out the relationship or, God forbid, argue, do it constructively, exclusively through I-messages. In my picture of the world the psychologist was equal to perfect everything and userPrincipalName person. Mother Teresa and Freud in one.
Later I started to learn that not everything is so smooth them. They also suffered, been divorced, cheated on, pushed down on loved ones, depressed and out of it. They also lived. Oh my God, they were as regular people!! With their problems, traumas, complexes. My first reaction then was a disappointment.. I felt cheated.. How?!? How these people could I be so cruel to kid?!?
time Passed.. My experience exceeded 10 years, behind divorce, moving to another country, a new family, two children.
it is included in their profession and, remembering myself many years ago, take a conscious decision to be honest with others. To share their experiences, their values, what I close and what is not. And I don't think it is "antipsychological", on the contrary.
Meme "Terpsichore" was born from the stereotype that the psychologist is a man who's not in trouble himself, and he would have all to understand and accept, not be angry over trifles, to be "patient", "vest" and other "mi-mi-mi". Be an example of a happy life, no depression, panic attacks and nervous breakdowns. You're a psychologist! Pull yourself together in the end!
I met and greeted these people. They seem really correct understanding, without a hitch, without a hitch. And thus, neutral, faceless. One gets the feeling that they are hiding behind the mask of their profession so that nobody would guess their weaknesses, fear of mistakes, flaws..
"Apsychology" creates the image of a positive, happy and successful everywhere man. They are easily fascinated, you feel that it emits some kind of special energy. It seems that even after a simple communication with him in life will come light strip, a miracle will happen.
In fact, the consequences can be very dire. I had a personal experience a client when the psychologist is so idealiziruete
that his every word was gold. To it is easy to become dependent. And it took a while to get out of it..
The main effect - do you believe in "the miraculous" of such expert, with his background feel weak and helpless. Then it all depends on your ability to critically assess the situation because in this phase you become very easy to manipulate. The psychologist is developing the God complex, he thinks he can save the world and restore justice.
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Returning to the usual psychologists. I am deeply convinced that the less we will have to idealize, to give over-expectations, to talk about what we should do/feel and what not, the better will be the result of psychological help.
Psychologist different from their customers is not the absence of problems (at times, its share dropped even more casualties and suffering), and the fact that he learned to live with them.
to realize, to feel, to live, to take care of yourself in these moments. He learned to be with yourself, not afraid and not running away from yourself. And that he can teach others. Be attentive to yourself and the world around. And, of course, he's just a man. Alive.
I am also happy, sad, crying. I find it a shame, shame, shame. I can be pissed all around and on certain people. To Express their dissatisfaction, admiration or gratitude. Does it affect my profession? Of course. I became a lot easier to feel and understand people. And they share with me their relief when they find out that nothing human is alien to me.
the other day I dared to share what I do not understand public display of gifts on Valentine's Day.Valentine. Change? It was not there: there were those who dragged the profession to Express their views. "How so, psychologist, and an angry speech here writes, evaluates people! Disorder! It is unprofessional! And, in General, I'm getting some serious positive people, and you publicly accomplish your goal!".
and laughter And a sin.. I would shut up and not to spoil the 'reputation'. And now consciously Express my opinion. Not only because I don't think I like it all. Just easier for me to work with people, if our values are close or at least do not contradict each other. So I prefer to be clear, even if someone is pushing.
Yeah, I may not fit everyone, and that's great, means you will find your specialist. But if you close how I perceive the world, so we will be easier to understand each other and configured to work together.
For me, psychotherapy it is primarily the cooperation relations on an equal footing. When I show that I am an ordinary man, come to me those who are willing to work and not waiting for a miracle or that I'd make it suddenly "mother". I have no idea to convince the client to therapy and make him dependent on her.
If problems had resolved themselves, psychologists would not be needed. When we decide to seek help, one way or another, hope for a miracle. But because is so easy to idealize a specialist.
At the initial stage of work it is quite natural.
Another question, if after a time, the problem is not solved, and you continue to feel helpless, and a slave addicted to therapy.. it is Worth considering, did you trapped the "terpsihorova"? Maybe it's time to remove this mask and take a chance to see an ordinary person who was with you the whole time? What remains of discarded illusions and expectations? Everyone has their own way. With this psychologist or not, only usually at this point we can begin real change.
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