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the Perfect man... that's What women wanted. He is nice caring and showing clear interest. But there is one thing! At home waiting for husband and children. Why sometimes women have thoughts about other things? Desire to change - the theme of intimate, little discussed, and on the other hand more and not socially welcome. Let's talk today about the secret desires that can suddenly occur in the life of any young mother.
What happens?
Any development passes through critical periods, without this it is impossible. The same rules apply to family development. The appearance of the child (especially the first) is a serious, important and very valuable event. The next stage of family development. Namely, these global changes create a stressful situation.
Learning the newly minted parents of their role requires a lot of effort. A young mother is in quite a predicament. The new role are not yet familiar, and the baby needs constant care and attention. On the other hand, relations with her husband at this time need special support. It is often a young father suffers from a lack of attention from the wife. He also appears on the new role, changing his perception of himself, his women, is redefining the entire family structure.
Sometimes it happens that motherhood is "too passionate" woman. And if in the marriage relationship, there is a lack of intimacy, all these experiences remain inside the young mother, or find an outlet in petty bickering. Incorrectly organized life, a high level of responsibility, criticism from relatives. Self-care goes by the wayside. Difficulties hit to the ego.
What is the result? Difficulties in relations with her husband, the stress from which you want to find a way out.
One of the ways to return the joy in life - to feel again like a woman. Beautiful and desirable and not just a mother, attentive, caring and selfless. This desire is quite legitimate, moreover, it will inevitably occur if the life is devoted only to the care of the child.
How to feel desirable and attractive? Of course, through the attention of men. Logically, if this is bouletcorp. And if the family have any difficulties? Building relationships - the process is very important and rewarding, but very time consuming. And feel like a woman I want right now.
such a "fertile" soil and a desire to flirt with other men, to receive confirmation of their attractiveness. The opportunity to experience a romantic feeling to receive compliments, to feel as light of love is very refreshing. But, by and large, only creates the additional complexity.
Mom in love?
Recently, the statistics GMI conducted a global social. survey. It turned out that more than 10 percent of married women flirt on the Internet. Flirting in the network captivates its "fabulousness", because everyone can present themselves anyone. And no matter what is actually on one side of the display may be tired, not very confident woman, and on the other a workaholic that has problems in the relationship. Imagination will add each of them the desired qualities that will add the image of the brighter colors. Such conditions create the illusion of infinity, of freedom of expression. It is necessary to adequately treat online relationships, to understand that the perception of the partner is a one-sided, often distorted. Deep reasons for the desire to flirt online may be to take yourself, unwillingness to improve relations in the pair, avoiding the problems in the family. On the other hand, such communication can help to better know themselves, discover new interests and inclinations. To see which topics attract attention and to transfer this knowledge to their family to use as a resource to improve the situation. Sometimes the thought of cheating can be formed, as the desire for revenge (inattention, lack of care, etc.)
more Complicated if the desire to change directed at a specific person. It is important to realize that is the goal: building a new relationship, or destruction existing. Sometimes that intimacy in the family for almost no, and requires tacit permission to break. If you look in itself does not work, you can look for for help from experts.
How to overcome a secret (or overt) desires?
First. Accept the fact, you need to pay attention to yourself, and only yourself. Take the time to take care of his beloved. Because of the shortage of such care, no energy to take care of someone else. It is not necessary to feel guilty in this regard: increasing the number and quality of self-care does not mean that the same care will be less accrue to the child. On the contrary, the mother, who understands and meets their needs, can more adequately assess the needs of the child. A happy, relaxed and confident woman in the house – the source of peace, confidence and happiness for the rest of the family.
Second. get busy! If the woman had the need to prove their femininity, attractiveness - care need to direct it in that direction. To raise the level of attractiveness in their eyes first. Gym, hairdresser, beauty salon, new clothes, dancing lessons, intellectual development – anything. By asking yourself an honest question, you will understand that you need now.
Third most importantly, to pay attention to the relationship with your spouse. In doing so, the couple increase the resilience of family, the ability to work together, which is especially important in critical situations. The ability to sincerely Express their feelings, to talk about their needs, to hear the other, to acknowledge his right to his vision, to be able to show love and to see the evidence of love the other very necessary skills in family life. Here come to the aid of time together "for two", at least for mushrooms – but the two of us. Open, honest, sincere dialogue also helps to build intimacy. Plus a small share of humor can provide good support for common interests. And yet it is worth noting the power of intention – it is important to maintain the desire to make the relationship more harmonious.
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