I just wrote a Bad conflict, as there are very Good Conflicts), but all in good time.
there Are people who are very afraid of conflicts and more suffering, and all the others around are convinced that it is the benefactor. Such people with age more and more satisfied with their lives, more and more they have all sorts of physical ailments and less ENERGY. And about the relationship and say nothing, is a relationship in which there is no intimacy , no trust, some "Must-Have" and "supposed".
there Are people who understand that can not be tolerated, but conflict it is very bad inside and out for the better anyway, nothing changes, on the contrary destroyed the relationship (((
And , there are magical people (although quite a common, but it can interfere constructively or formed) that conflict, but their life is not impaired and the relationship does not deteriorate, but rather with those who is important to them - improved. But those who are totally different values, simply cease to exist or move on to "strangers".
What are the causes of Destructive conflicts, those that occur in the 1st and 2nd category? Let us examine the three main reasons, which are actually derived from each other.
1. The presence of internal conflicts
- do not match your actions to your emotions and deep values, self-deception, persuading yourself that you don't feel that way and to do so "Laid" or "Better". All this leads to total frustration and blame often sought outside.
2. do Not respect (confidence and love) to him, and as a result no ability to respect and hear others.
If you yourself do not like (do not take, do not take care of themselves fully and adequately, you're often not satisfied and as a consequence the accumulated negative form or in anger or self-blame. Receiving a bizarre form of psychological protection substitution and projection. Then the feeling of guilt, round and round leads to lower self-esteem, and as a consequence the same disrespect other people, their personality and their needs.
3. Physical condition is not the resource, for the same reason not to Love yourself, like I wrote above.
another very frequent and the consequences of the previous two paragraphs is a conflict created by you when you are not online.
And your resources are destroyed:
- nepravilni and inadequate rest;
- not a healthy food;
- toxic environment;
- lack of adequate physical activity, sex life and fresh air.
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