Hello, friends! Let's deal with the opinions and myths that swirl around marriage and cohabitation without the notorious "stamp" in the passport (cohabitation).
the First myth "Stamp in the passport does nothing, no difference in the relationship at that with a stamp that without him."
OK, if this is the case, then, especially, why not to put?? Because there is no difference! But in this dilemma, for some reason, people always choose to leave a page in the passport is clean. Why? What motive really drives this desire? On this question and to answer those who think in these categories.
the other side of this myth - take "stamp" out of context and to operate this concept in isolation from the main. The stamp is part of a large beautiful ritual of marriage. This should, at least, know! And why is man vital required rituals, I will explain in one of next posts.
the Second myth - "you Want to test yourself at home: to work as a laundress and a cook before marriage, and then suddenly not be able to wash the socks" (I'm exaggerating). And mind you that think this category only girls.
OK, this is a good noble pursuit to be the perfect hostess, taking care of a loved man. But let's look at the next option. The guy makes an elegant proposal to the girl, gives her a beautiful ring, ready to sponsor the wedding, and has furnished a home for the future living together. Why, in this case, the girl does not respond with a refusal? Not offering the test of life?? She immediately says "No", if a man she does not like or says coveted "Yes". Call out girls who rejected the ring, the engagement and offered to just live together?
the Third myth very similar to the second - "to Know a person better through interaction in everyday life". And then suddenly we are not getting on and not be able to be together?
I would interpret this installation, but was unable to find a real or even fictitious examples of what kind of home time can cause rupture of two loving people? If you know of such a precedent, then tell me in the comments! I can only say that to verify a person may be other, more qualitative and less time-consuming, ways. And in General - life is not a problem if you arrange everything on the shore. To examine women's and men's role in the family, to discuss the details and come to a compromise.
With love, psychologist Alyona :)
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