...She was difficult, she always said that complains of panic attacks, which turned out to be something resembling persistent ideas about any disease.
And when she woke up and couldn't sleep because of their obsessions, it became increasingly clear that the "quite mad". And then it was covered alarm: strong, unstoppable, clingy and desperate. She couldn't it's nothing to do but tell someone. Then it became easier, maybe until the next night.
a Thin woman of about 32. Pretty. Fragile. Not looking in the eyes, constantly staring at his crossed knees fingers. Dressing with taste.
She talks about anxiety and looks somewhere down to, on their hands. I am unable to meet her gaze. It does not work. Does she not want to see her anxiety. I feel hopeless, may be just the same feeling, that feels she is. And perhaps no.
But gradually you begin to understand that anxiety is becoming more and more in my office, and it's time to sit on the stool next to me and the girl.
I suggested to imagine that this alarm is sitting on a chair close by and asked who does she look like. The client replied that the chair sees a grey figure without a face, hooded, hands hidden in sleeves. This is clearly a man and look at him scared.
I asked, what is fear? I replied that the fear is that this man can master it. Client began to cry, saying that she's crying again "out of pity".
the Tears flowed, she could not stop, I watched and tried to think of something else. Asked who is spared? And got the answer that sorry another woman, successful, beautiful, successful. I asked the client to imagine her in the neighboring chair Alarm.
Crying, she had almost ceased, and then began from the age of glancing at the chair where sat the Alarm. I asked her to sit on this chair and say something to the girl, who was crying. And from this place, from the name of this man in the hoodie, she began to speak: "I want to help you! Give me this opportunity! I will share with you my strength!"
the Client is moved back and began to tell me that she doesn't believe this, especially from men, she has no credibility. Exactly. I decided to make almost banned move: I ask, because when she sat in the place of that men, because she knew that he wanted to help her sincerely? I was afraid that she will say that nothing of the sort, he didn't! But she thought it over. She looked me straight in the eye, for the first time in the entire session, and said, "Yes, he is sincere!".
she Further moved to place the successful women, which was close by and was on her behalf to tell you that watching. And then announced that she was in this place quite everyone trusts and knows how to accept help.
and then moved to the place crying girls. And there began to continue to say that absolute confidence is still her character is no Alarm.
I got to thinking. Who in my life ever I trusted completely? There was such a thing? Once in a while? And realized that - no. And reported to the client. And then asked to estimate how much she can trust man on the contrary, in percent. She replied that for seventy per cent, probably, maybe.
- And that's enough for first time?
She thought.
And then said, "Yes!"
Is that a Yes made me very happy, and the fact that this second time she very openly looked me in the eye.
this session is finished. It will come, and I hope that the anxiety will decrease and she will find the opportunity to take his help... even men's help... but you shouldn't rush, isn't it?
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