regardless of social status, different life situations and circumstances, a person is faced with feelings that are difficult to explain in words. And these experiences are either forced to become too active, or Vice versa kill the will to live and forced to harden and freeze. In your life you are probably faced with such people do not need anyone things, and they themselves suffer from it, but at the time calm down. Or Vice versa, in a quiet environment looks like, I want to do something, but I can't. The only thing that can be understood in such States, is that something with me or surrounded by not so. Often this process takes a lot of effort. Of course, such conditions can talk about different reasons, but most often is manifested as anxiety.
Everyone lives with anxiety, which is accompanied by intrapersonal conflict. And this feeling is in step with other experiences. Unconsciously we all strive for life and fear “divide and disappear”. If we look deeper into trouble we will see fear. And this fear of “nothing” causes us to move. To reach the heights, to develop intellectually by doing courses or universities, or physically doing sports, look for answers to the questions of how the world works. Surely there will be question: all anxiety is fear? Therefore, it is necessary to talk about fear? However, anxiety on an unconscious level is the fear of death, and implies a risk of one of the values of the person.
for Example, in practice, the client came to counseling says about strong feelings related to the meaninglessness of his life. He is successful, educated, his life is perspective, and it would be hard from the fact that getting another degree, or a promotion at work, no enjoyment of life in the present. There is a new problem that has new goals, new courses, a new position. On the question of what would happen if he stopped, I heard a description of the condition in which many fears. Fears were related to the fact that he will be gone physically, but as it happens, understanding was not. Rather, a General description of anxiety. So, let's get the concepts of anxiety and fear:
- Anxiety has no object
- Fear objective
If you want to describe how we react on a situation, in the beginning, when we hear the explosion, or dangerous sound, the first is fear and the physical reaction in which the eyes close and squint, his head pressed into the shoulders after you receive the alert, which object we seek danger. In this state there is no understanding of how to react to the situation. I understand that something is wrong, but what is not clear. Only at the sight of the figure who created the sound becomes clear what to do. If this is a man with a gun, there is a fear and a defensive reaction: run, run, freeze.
In this case there is the danger of the object. In everyday life, where there are no wars, the relatively calm situation around, the danger is different in character and it is accompanied by anxiety. There are three main reasons why anxiety always goes with us.
1. Social fear the abyss
- to Dissolve in a person (socialization)
- to be alone, abandoning people (individuation)
despite the fact that man is a social being, it is fighting two opposites. On the one hand wants to emphasize their individuality and difference from others. But if an individual be able to stand out from the masses, it will create a large voltage level, because he will have nothing to communicate with “ordinary people”. On the other hand, if “I” would not stand out, and do everything like everyone else, in such a situation the person will lose itself. He doesn't understand what he is and what that also entails a certain indignation. Appears uncertain and contradictory task, to emphasize their individuality, remain with the people. The alarm allows you to keep the freedom of being at this point between complete dependence and the complete contrast of people.
2. To die physically
the Physical body is lost, there is anxiety associated with the unknown as it happens. After all, the man with all its uniqueness is not protected from hazardous situations, accidents, weather events. He also doesn't know how long he will live.
3. The fear of nothingness
the Unconscious man afraid that life after death of the physical body will not. There are many explanations for what will happen after death. And the only thing left to believe in. But faith does not give relative calm, internally there is some doubt whether this is true.
We already know that anxiety has always lived with us. Is this normal? The answer is simple: Yes! This is normal. Probably not normal may be the strength and extent of this anxiety. If anxiety causes a lot of discomfort, it goes into a neurotic.
1. “Normal” anxiety, we are also called objective. We can recognize it in the following manifestations
• Anxiety adequate to the objective threat
• does Not trigger the mechanisms in which we begin to behave inappropriately (aktivnichat not the case, to freeze, to respond urgently to event)
• the Person is able to cope with anxiety without resorting to using
• manages People constructively on a conscious level alarm.
for Example, being on a ship in military action, knowing that there are a lot of enemy submarines, a sailor will fear that the ship will sink. But the state of uncertainty caused by ignorance of the location of submarines and at what point might sink ships, makes much worrying.
2. "Neurotic" alarm:
• Inadequate objective event
• is Manifested in the mechanisms in which we begin to behave inappropriately.
• People limits your actions or narrows the field of his consciousness through a variety of mechanisms – suppression of the development of symptoms and other neurotic defense mechanisms.
For example, if a person has severe problems with self esteem, coming to the company after hearing the comparison that were not of the aggressive nature, in his address, he may consider it an insult, and for a long time to find out on the crazy relationship with interlocutors. Will not be able to even clarify why he reacted.
What if we know that trouble always follows us and interacts with the other senses. In the past the alarm has enabled man to survive in the harsh natural conditions, in the presence of a large number of dangers. Now in relatively calm conditions, anxiety helps us to adapt to the environment and to socialize. And interesting fact: it turns out that the more man is aware of himself and surroundings, the more he realizes the consequences of all your actions, the more a man intellectually developed, the greater his ability to make trouble. Anxiety causes more carefully consider every action. We think through the consequences of their actions to reduce the level of anxiety. Most often, we seek answers to unknown questions to intellectually explain to myself that we're safe. It turns out that the anxiety contributes to our development. Before this mankind were animated inanimate objects, came up with the story of creation. Now, with the emergence of science anxiety motivates us to search for answers in other ways, based not only on faith. Realizing the alarm, you will be able to develop, interested in the unknown and to explore what usually seems dangerous. Anxiety will push you to be creative, because exploring the unknown, we try different ways of research to get the answer. The alarm indicates a true freedom in life and encourages responsibility for life. It makes people more Mature. After all, if I make a choice in one direction, I can never be in another, building relationships with certain people, I'll show you with others. Anxiety and fills with joy and sadness in the moments of choice. This range of feelings allows you to experience life. This may be the case that there is an awareness of anxiety, not its avoidance.
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